give more time

i recently heard this story of two powerful men:

in 1972, george mcgovern ran against richard nixon for president of the united states. mcgovern and charles colson (nixon’s advisor) started on opposite sides of the political spectrum… but they both ended up with the same regrets.  chuck colson wrote this, “as i think back on my life my biggest regret is not spending more time with my kids.  making family your top priority means going against a culture where materialism and workaholism are rampant.  it means realizing that you may not advance as fast in your career as others do.  it means being willing to accept a lower standard of living knowing that you’re doing it for your kids.  it means giving them the emotional security that they’ll draw on for the rest of their lives.”

later, george mcgovern wrote a book about his daughter terry. she was an alcoholic and in 1994, she was found frozen to death in a snowdrift after a night of drinking.  after his daughter died, george mcgovern poured over her diaries and contacted many of her friends and discovered that he hadn’t been the parent that he thought he was.  while reading her diaries he discovered that while he was spending eighteen hours a day working for political causes terry was writing in her diary how much she missed her daddy.  and that he probably didn’t care about her anyway.”  mcgovern left this message to parents: “show more love to your kids by spending more time with them.  especially as teenagers.  no matter what it costs your career.  that way,” he said “neither of you will have regrets.”  he went on to say “i’d give everything i have – and i mean everything – for one more afternoon with terry.  just to let her know how much i loved her.”

remember to give your loved ones something that is far more valuable than anything you can buy at a store… give them more of your time.

Joshua Becker

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  1. says

    Isn’t that always the case in politics (particularly with presidents?)

    And the saddest thing of all is that often, a person will quit an administration because ‘he wants to spend more time with his family’.. and then it hits you.. the guy who says this is usually in his 60’s!

    That would qualify as ehmm.. ‘a little too late’ ;)

    Greetings from the netherlands!

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