We live lives that are too easily pleased. Too often, we rely on possessions and money to satisfy our heart’s desire. We rely on selfish pursuits. And routinely fall into the lie that the secret to a fulfilled life is the possession of more belongings and the achievement of personal gain.
But while we are settling for the temporal pleasure of material possessions, is it possible we are missing out on something better? Is it possible we are missing things that would bring even greater satisfaction and more lasting pleasure to our lives? Could it be that we were designed for something greater than material acquisitions? And we are acting foolishly by settling for something far less than the very best?
C. S. Lewis said it like this, “Our desires are not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
Since becoming minimalist and shifting my life’s focus away from possessions, I have begun to notice how much of my life was wasted chasing empty pursuits. If I wasn’t working to earn the money to buy more things, I was researching my next purchase, reading advertisements, shopping at the store, or managing the possessions already in my home. I now consider all of it time wasted that I can never get back. Time I could have spent chasing things of lasting value.
My life was lived too haphazardly. I became so involved in the day-to-day meanderings of life I was no longer able to visualize anything different. My values and pursuits were being dictated by the voices around me… not the voices within. But I have learned there is something of far greater value to be found by those who will withdraw intentionally long enough to listen.
My life was lived too selfishly. I worried about my career, my house, my paycheck, my appearances, and my glory. Little concern was offered towards the plight of others. I was too busy loving myself to love anyone else. But the size of our universe shrinks significantly when we place ourselves at the center. Instead, when we begin to love others and care for their interests rather than just our own, we begin to see our potential for joy increase dramatically.
My life was lived too focused on the wrong things. I sought to collect and compare things that can easily be measured. But there are invisible things in this universe that will bring far greater joy and satisfaction to our lives than the trinkets on sale at your local department store. Albert Einstein once said, “Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.” I have come to discover the lasting fulfillment that can be found in hope, peace, faith, love… just to name a few. And I have come to realize there is a greater joy available to those who learn to fully appreciate the value of each.
Some of the most fulfilling moments in my life have been times when the world’s system has been flipped upside-down. Seek intentional opportunities to evaluate and review the trajectory of your life. Rather than always rushing to get on top, to acquire more, or to impress others, take time to help someone else. And rather than looking at a person through the lens of worldly success, look into their heart instead – you may be surprised what you discover. It’s time to seek more. And time to realize there are greater things available to us than simply acquiring and managing a storehouse of shiny things.
Today, I wish you the very best.
Mama Minou says
Thank you.
I second Brooke’s comment above–I feel like I’ve been progressing well along my journey of simplicity–but then realize that my focus has still been all about the “stuff”. Letting go to make room for what I know is bigger, yes–but isn’t that the focus all along? I also realised that I spend quite a bit of time thinking about things like how I can increase my retirement savings–when so many of the world’s population live on less than a dollar a day.
The bigger question is How can I help? What can I do?
Thank you for the reminder.
Diane Balch says
It takes time alone with yourself to find out what you really want and need and most of us are far too afraid to go their. It is much easier to buffer I desires with objects… thats for reminding me not to settle for the superficial.
TB at BlueCollarWorkman says
It’s true about the possessions and looking up and researching new ones, and then having to manage the ones we arleady have. It’s exhausting. And doesn’t really do anything for us in the end.
I think we’re too easily pleased when it comes to yoru post, but I think we’re also not pleased as easily as we shoudl be when it comes to accepting and caring for and loving what is right here in front of us. Air in our lungs, family, food, love… we’re not easily pleased enough regarding those things. We never think it’s enough or we take it all for granted. A sunrise, clouds in the sky, etc.
joshua becker says
Thanks for adding that TB.
Becky says
I appreciate the quote, but I think you might have missed WHO he was referring to…
joshua becker says
You’re right. I didn’t make any mention of C.S. Lewis’ stated object of affection… Jesus. Because I think the quote still holds value and truth regardless of specific religious beliefs. But thanks for clarifying Lewis’ original purpose for us.
Becky says
Thank you, Joshua. I think your site is great and I appreciate your wisdom. I feel like I am as far from minimalist as I can get in most ways, however, I am working on complete reliance on Jesus (the ultimate minimalism!)
Jana says
Our family is shifting our gift-giving away from things and toward experiences that can be shared: a concert, a meal, a vacation.
Matthew says
The pursuit of ‘things’ in the pursuit of happiness. Never has common sense and conventional wisdom been more at odds.
Joy says
What a beautiful affirmation! Thank you :)
Brooke {Slow Your Home} says
You know, I think I’m travelling along quite well on this path towards simpler living when I’m hit right between the eyes with a post like this.
A real reality check for me.
Yes, I’m letting go of the superficial in terms of stuff and people’s expectations of that stuff. But am I opening my heart to the world by letting go of the superficial in terms of my judgements of others? My perspective on the world? My desire to help people? My tendency to put me and mine at the centre of everything?
Sometimes, yes. But, man, I needed this reminder…
As always, thank you.
joshua becker says
You’re welcome Brooke. Thanks for your honesty. I don’t think any of us ever fully arrive in this areas. But we keep striving. And find more joy because of it.
Brown Vagabonder says
Loved, loved this post – I got into work today – after a horrific tryst with Toronto morning traffic, and I was wondering what I am doing this all for. Why am I struggling with traffic every morning? To what end? Reading this post reminded me why I am struggling – so that I can save up enough to pay off my debt, leave on that 1 year trip to South America, and devote my life to yoga and travel and food. My three loves! :)
joshua becker says
Best of luck on paying down your debt Brown. Do you have a target date or timeline?
Brown Vagabonder says
I finally have a ETA for my debt removal! I am so excited I can barely sit down still. On March 15, 2013, I will be debt-free. Of course, this brings up questions of what will I strive for after the debt is paid down? I mean, what will I do? I have been focused on this goal of mine for so long – it seems like I will have nothing to strive for. I have to find another focus point – which is what I am working on right now. Thanks for the inspiration through your blog!
tbone says
Instead of devoting your life to yoga, travel and food which will all perish one day and never offer true fulfillment, why not devote your life to helping others? Much more satisfying.
Eva says
tbone, that seems a bit harsh. Yes you are right in that helping others may also be satisfying but we are all individuals and what is satisfying to one may not be to another. Personally I think its great what Brown is wanting to do, if those are the things that she loves and make her happy.
Brown Vagabonder says
Thank you for defending me Eva.
Libertad says
Your 3 loves, yoga travel & food I see as tools to help others. Especially if done with good intentions & an open heart. Everyone you touch will be helped. Teaching others to be healthy happy & mindfull can be done through yoga, travel & food. Wishing you many blessings on your journey Brown Vagabonder.
Brown Vagabonder says
Thanks tbone for your comment – I totally agree my three loves might seem trivial at first glance – but they make me happy and they bring joy to my heart. We cannot help another until we help ourselves. If we are not happy ourselves, how are we supposed to help someone else? That is what I am working with right now – to ensure I am in the right place and frame of mind to help others.
Katie says
Your so right, I was the same way when I lived on the east coast, I would commute an hour to work and an hour to an hour and half back….getting laid off from the big paying job opened my eyes….I moved to the mid west, live on the same street I work on…NO COMMUTE and got rid of the car…I now bus to work, rent a car when I want to go on day trips or weekends away and life is so less compicated, its worry free.
Terry says
Thank you, especially for the advice in the last paragraph (“look into the heart”). It’s something I need to be reminded of.