If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the clutter in your home, you are not alone. Many people start the journey to a simpler space only to find themselves discouraged by the task ahead. It can be very overwhelming at the start.
Quickly, it starts to look like the road to decluttering will be filled with endless challenges, missteps, discouragements, and frustrations. At that point, it just seems easier to give up.
But what if some of the obstacles we think we’ll face are built on misconceptions?
What if some of the assumptions we believe to be true are actually the beliefs holding us back? In some instances, that is exactly the case.
So let’s address (and dismantle) the 10 biggest decluttering lies that might be holding you back from getting started or making progress—so you can move forward with confidence and clarity.
1. Decluttering Has No End
One of the most daunting misconceptions is that decluttering is an endless task and there is no finish line anyway. This lie can make the process seem overwhelming and futile.
In reality, while our needs and circumstances change over time, requiring periodic reassessment, decluttering does not need to be a job without an end.
Decluttering, in its original phase, does have an end and it’s amazing. The quicker and harder you work, the sooner you can get there.
Then by establishing a mindful approach to what we own and reassessing what items bring value to our lives, we can maintain a clutter-free environment that grows and adapts with us.
2. Decluttering Has to Go Slow
Many believe that decluttering must be a slow, gradual process. While for some, taking it slow helps prevent overwhelm, this isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach.
Some may find that a more rapid decluttering session can lead to quick, motivating changes that inspire further action. One guy even famously decluttered his entire life in one weekend.
The work doesn’t have to be slow. The key is to understand your emotional and physical limits and choose a pace that suits your lifestyle and preferences.
3. Decluttering Decisions Should Be Easy
This lie can be particularly discouraging. But if you find making decluttering decisions difficult, you are not alone and you are still able to make progress.
Deciding what to keep and what to let go can be an emotional process. And almost everybody stands face-to-face with difficult decision.
Acknowledge that it’s okay to feel attached to your belongings and to struggle with these decisions. Over time, as you practice, this process will become easier.
4. You Need to Be a Minimalist to Declutter
Decluttering does not require you to live with the bare minimum.
I think minimalism is great. But there’s a difference between decluttering and minimalism. Embrace decluttering as a way to enhance your life by removing excess, not everything.
5. You Should Keep Everything You Use
Let me reframe your thinking a little bit about decluttering. Many people start with the question, “Do I use it?” And if the answer is yes, they’ll quickly decide to keep the item.
But the reality is, “Just because you use an item doesn’t mean you need to keep it.” Our homes are filled with countless things we think we need just because we occasionally use them.
But if there’s something else in the home that can accomplish the same task, we don’t need to keep extras.
6. You Should Never Regret Letting Something Go
Regret is a natural part of life and decluttering is no exception. It’s normal to occasionally regret a decision to part with an item.
But these regrets are few and far between and typically don’t outweigh the benefits and freedom that come from owning less.
Besides, it’s better to get rid of a thousand things and realize maybe you needed one of them later than it is to keep 999 things in your home that you never use.
7. The More You Throw Away, the Better
Decluttering isn’t just about throwing things away—it’s about making thoughtful decisions on what to keep and what to part with.
Sure, some things are just trash and need to be thrown away. But donating, selling, and recycling items are all part of a responsible decluttering process—and can often serve to be more motivating.
8. Decluttering is Expensive
Some think that decluttering involves buying fancy organizational tools and systems. In truth, decluttering should help reduce your need for additional items.
It doesn’t cost more to own less… it costs more to own more.
9. A Clean Space Equals a Decluttered Space
It’s easy to confuse cleanliness with decluttering. But a clean home isn’t necessarily decluttered if closets and drawers are bursting at the seams.
10. Decluttering Is Purely Physical
While decluttering your physical space is amazingly life-changing, don’t overlook the mental and emotional clutter. Simplifying your schedule, commitments, and goals can also have profound effects on your overall well-being.
By recognizing these decluttering lies before we even get started, we can approach the process with a clearer understanding, more realistic expectations, and better pathway going forward.
Decluttering is definitely a personal journey and each person is in charge of making their own decisions for their unique home and family. But regardless of how you choose to pursue it, owning less will help pave the way for a more meaningful and purpose-filled life.
Thank you for this article :)
I am decluttering 4 years after the death of my husband. I haven’t really been able to face it til now. It’s quite a surprising experience. I’ve found that I have things from several generations of my family and his. I’ve bought cardboard(nice) boxes and I’m labeling as I go. The process has taken me back in a good a difficult way. But overall it has got me thinking about family past and present. I feel good about throwing out stuff that’s not needed and gradually spaces are appearing in rooms that I’ve had to shut the door on. I try to take no notice of my daughters who want me to be minimalist. My stuff is about me and it’s important to keep it but at the same time it’s great to have it neatly in boxes and consequently opening up these messy spaces.
I tell my husband if he passes on a Friday—- his stuff will be gone by Monday! 🤣
Rookie mistake: getting excited about decluttering and organizing, and blowing $ on buying fancy baskets/bins — BEFORE you declutter! Once you declutter, you may find you don’t even need additional storage or bins.
Great reminders. I don’t know who thinks #8 is true (decluttering in expensive), but I know for a fact the cluttered life is the more expensive life.
When we finally went through our office, hobby room, and storage area, we ended up with over $200 (new) worth of storage totes we donated because we didn’t need them any more! We also had another $1,000 in storage shelves and items we got rid of. I took a minute to imagine what we would have been able to do on our planned vacations this year if we had that $1,200.
I think it’s pretty easy to prove a cluttered life costs way more than a decluttered life, while it could also be argued that more expensive life lowers the overall quality of your life as well!
Point #5 is the one that hit me most – you don’t have to keep something just because you use it. This is most applicable to me in my kitchen! I am one of those folks who really needs to go slow (point #2), and that’s how I’m going in my kitchen. Ok I should be going faster than I currently am, yes I admit it. But I can’t go really fast, that’s not who I am. However, last fall a couple of my adult kids came by and helped get rid of things, and it was a one-day blockbuster event in which a LOT of items were removed. Man, it hurt like the band-aid getting pulled off, but I don’t regret it (point #6!).
I moved a year ago and so far have got rid of many many many kitchen items. Funny, the kitchen in our new home is bigger than my former kitchen, but for some reason I’m finding it harder to fit even the reduced amount of items in. So that means I will get rid of a lot more stuff. I’m on board. I am doing that now. I’ve got one entire drawer emptied!! Big deal for me! I’m one of those cooks who actually does use a lot of specialized tools and pans and such. I’m determined to keep minimizing even things I use, especially in the kitchen (but also many other areas!).
I just think there have been blinders on me for a long time, and through this course I have realized that & I’m doing something about it. :)
Great read and very truthful
Joshua, I love this post! I thoroughly enjoyed reading this! Thank you! :)