Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Angel (and Marc) Chernoff of Marc & Angel Hack Life.
Recently one of our course students, Monica—a recovering victim of a very recent and debilitating car accident—was smiling from ear to ear the minute our FaceTime coaching session began.
“What has you in such good spirits today?” I asked her. “I’m thinking differently about things…about how lucky I am to be alive,” she replied. “I thought the injuries I sustained in that accident signified the end of life as I know it, but now I realize they signify the beginning.”
All details aside, Monica decided to begin again, in her mind first and then in her life. It’s taken her several weeks of healing and practice, but she has consciously let go of the “shoulda, woulda, coulda” attachments in her head about her circumstances, and she has stepped forward with grace and determination. Her new beginning has everything to do with her new way of thinking.
Truth be told, no matter when we look at the calendar, today is really just the beginning, for all of us. And we can prevent the wrong thoughts and beliefs from getting the best of us as we move forward with our lives. We can train our minds to make the very best of the present moment, even when our circumstances are far less than ideal. All it takes is…
Practice. Daily practice, every morning.
The morning is vital. It’s the foundation from which the day is built. And that’s why we have to be mindful of how we speak to ourselves when we first wake up. What we tell ourselves first thing in the morning is a big part of what we hear for the rest of the day.
Positive morning reminders are honestly one of the simplest and most powerful tools for mental growth.
It’s all about keeping the right thoughts top of mind from the get-go every day, so they’re readily available on those hard days when you need them most.
For Monica, that has meant sitting down quietly with herself every morning after breakfast and reflecting on precisely what she needs to remember. She reads quotes (many of which are now excerpts from our new book) like the one below to do just that. Some people call them affirmations, or prayers, or convictions, but in any case these positive morning reminders keep Monica on track by keeping peaceful, productive thoughts and perspectives centered in her mind, even as she struggles to cope with her injuries.
She has ultimately learned that peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no chaos, trouble, or hard realities to deal with—peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still remain mentally and emotionally centered.
This is one of our favorite morning reminders. Our challenge to you is to spend 60 seconds every morning reciting it to yourself as soon as you wake up, before you begin your day. See how doing so affects your mood and disposition throughout the day…
And be thankful right now.
For your health,
And your home.
Nothing lasts forever.
Try it now.
Take a deep breath and read it out loud.
And as you say the words health, family, friends, and home, pause briefly and visualize each of them.
Think about what gifts they are, even if they’re imperfect.
Be grateful for them just as they are.
Instead of focusing on what you’d change about them, focus on what you love about them and how much value they add to your life.
As you repeat this reminder each morning, pause the same way you just did. Many of these everyday gratitudes are too easily forgotten. And they are critically important!
In our new book, Getting Back to Happy: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Reality, and Turn Your Trials into Triumphs, we explore gratitude as a fundamental daily ritual for creating happiness.
This is an active practice of taking life day by day and being thankful for the little things. It’s about not getting caught up in what you can’t control, but instead accepting it and making the best of it. Because, when you stop worrying about what you can’t control, you have more time to change the things you can control. And that changes everything.
This book represents the culmination of hundreds of hours of work with course students like Monica, and lots of one-on-one work with each other, too. Made up of small lessons and tiny, life-changing daily rituals, we have seen these exact practices change lives time and again.
Above all, what you need to remember is that it’s ultimately your choice…
Yes, it’s your choice.
You are choosing right now.
And if you’re choosing…
to be stuck in the past…
to act like a victim…
to feel insecure…
to feel anger…
to feel hate…
to be naïve…
to ignore your intuition…
to ignore good advice…
to give up…
…then it’s time to choose differently.
But, let me also remind you that you are not alone. Generations of human beings in your family tree have chosen. Human beings around the world have chosen. We all have chosen at one time or another. And we stand behind you now whispering:
Choose to let go.
Choose to be present.
Choose to be positive.
Choose to forgive yourself.
Choose to forgive others.
Choose to see your value.
Choose to see the possibilities.
Choose to find meaning.
Choose to prove you’re not a victim.
Choose to practice thinking better (and living better), every morning.
And of course, if there’s anything else Marc and I can do to assist you, please don’t hesitate to leave a comment below.
Angel (and Marc) Chernoff are the creators of Marc & Angel Hack Life, which was recognized by Forbes as “one of the most popular personal development blogs” and the authors of the new book, Getting Back to Happy. Through their writing, coaching, course and annual live events (where Joshua Becker has spoken twice), they’ve spent the past decade sharing proven strategies for getting unstuck in order to find lasting happiness and success.
Sandra D says
Great read hit the spot for me this morning.
Michael Federighi says
I would love to read anything you have written
Carol Cooper says
Thank you for this wonderful positive article.I know positive thinking has been mentioned by many but you have explained the way to do this so well. Having had a lot of tough things happen over the years, I have realised I have become a moaner at times,(misery loves company and all that) and am aware that changing will be good and also attract a better life and company. I look forward to your emails and have bookmarked this article
Charles Rizzo says
Thank You,very much.God s Blessing s be, upon You and yours.
Timely message with the CoronaVirus wrecking our daily lives and spreading chaos. This is very timely! Thanks!
Eugenio Palomino says
Thank you Courtney… and everyone else… for the courage to engage in this dialogue! I have been enormously influenced by YOGA in not judging. I dedicate attention to the way I speak, the words that I use, and most important, to my attitude. If I do not judge… everything HAPPENS. It is so SIMPLE… to understand LIFE, to understand this UNIVERSE! A BIG HUG for EVERYONE!
Powerful , very powerful
Jill Gatlin says
So true! So on time for me! Love this article!
So agree! Gratitude makes all the difference… but how it takes a lot of inner strength or resolve I reckon to take that path for our lives whatever the circumstances.
One of my favorites—
Two men looked out through prison bars.
One saw mud.
One saw stars.
This is amazing. Thank you!
This was a good reminder for myself. I haven’t been very happy about where I am in life. It’s not necessarily a bad life, but not one I’m particularly fond of. It’s the choices I’ve made that got me here and it’s the choices I will make to change it to what I want it to be. Thanks for the inspiration this morning. I really needed it.
Fortune Dushey says
Love this post. I have a gratitude journal which helps start my day on a more positive note. Thank you for the inspiration! I will definitely be reciting your poem daily.