I’ve moved five times since college. With each move, I have sought the advice of a local realtor. They have provided important insights into neighborhoods, housing trends, and home prices. And each time, they have taken a genuine self-interest in my family’s well-being. In fact, I’m still friends with almost all of them.
Our interaction typically begins with a series of questions: What are you looking for in a home? Are there any specific locations you have in mind? Are you pre-approved for a loan? How much are you looking to spend?
With this information, a realtor is prepared to make recommendations and offer advice—usually based on the dollar amount a buyer wants to spend.
Too often in this scenario, “What can you afford?” replaces “What do you actually need?” as the starting point for most home buyers. Rarely do people begin the home buying experience with a list of needs alone. Instead, they come armed with a pre-approved dollar amount, set by the bank, of how much they can afford to pay each month. This rationale has gotten us into deep over-housing problems, on both a macro and micro-economic level.
The housing market today in the USA is pushing prices to an all-time high. If you are in the market to purchase a home, I want to offer you the most important piece of home buying advice you’ll ever hear:
Buy only the home you need, not the house you can afford.
Too often, when people begin the home buying experience, the mantra of our society comes calling, “buy as much and as big as possible.” It seems, whatever dollar amount the financial institution has approved to spend on a home becomes the price range they begin searching in—usually choosing a home at the upper limit of the range.
For example, if based on income, a buyer is pre-approved for a $350,000 loan, most buyers begin searching for the biggest house they can find for exactly $350,000. This thinking can even be encouraged by the realtor and the financial institution. And why not? The larger the sale, the greater their profit.
Buyers soon create a list of “wants” for their new home while “actual need” is quickly erased from the formula. Once you tour a $350,000 home, it’s really difficult to be content buying a $250,000 one.
In purchasing homes, we are told repeatedly (in both subtle and not so subtle ways) that “bigger” and “more” is better. As a result, the average American home has tripled in size in the last 50 years—and they only continue to expand. With little regard for the negative consequences, buyers continue to purchase bigger and bigger homes, whatever size their income allows.
But the impact of this thinking has detrimental effects on our well-being. We typically use only 40% of our living space with any regularity. Meanwhile, the increased debt contributes to mental and emotional distress. And the excess space carries additional financial costs—whether we are using the square footage or not.
More is not always better. There are actually some fabulous benefits to living in a smaller home. A smaller home is easier to maintain, less expensive, assumes less financial risk, results in less environmental impact, and frees up our resources to pursue other passions in life.
We made the mistake of buying bigger and bigger houses with each pay increase during the first decade of our marriage. It wasn’t until I was introduced to the benefits of minimalism that we eventually downsized into a smaller home—a decision we have never ever regretted.
Buying a home is a very personal decision that weighs a large number of factors. And only you know all the variables that come into play when making that decision.
But too often, the most important piece of home buying advice is the one we never hear:
Buy only the home you need, not the house you can afford.
Linda Evans says
My husband and I bought our current house, in Sheffield UK, in 1969. There were 4 bedrooms, and we needed 1. Over the years, we had 4 children. We waterproofed the cellar, converted the attic into 2 more rooms, and didn’t have to spend anything on moving. As well as the kids, we’ve had a new mother, friends recovering from operations, lodgers, young people who don’t want to live at home any more . . If you buy a house which fits you too well early, you’ll have to keep moving, expensively, at every new stage in your life. Can’t see this as good idea.
Kodey says
Bigger vs smaller. Status vs comfy. Need vs want. All questions asked when buying a home. Yes at times bigger seems nice, but, how much of the ” bigger space is really used. Keeping up with the Jones. Yuk… Too much work. No am not lazy but having a easier more relaxed life seems better to me. You can still “live life” / ” enjoy life” ….but…… Dose a bigger home have that “relaxed homey feeling ? Personally I enjoy a ” homey, more relax” smaller home. Nothing is for “show” …. It’s just a happy home
Linda Bell says
My son and I built my retirement house above a garage for him. 900 sq ft. Nice size bathroom/laundry and a kitchen in one corner. Bed in another corner. I use about half of it for my sewing (I quilt for income). I would not want anything bigger. It is not conducive to entertaining or overnight visitors but it works perfect for me. Working hard at decluttering. This is excellent advice.
Alex @ Frisco Maids says
I think nowadays more and more people are getting used to search for homes that are smaller but more budget-friendly. That’s because the idea of having a 30-year mortgage seems more challenging every year.
Dorothy says
Living to impress with square footage is juvenile. BetterPathHomes , my son and daughter-n-law’s company in Charlotte, NC build new modest size homes people can afford and I am one proud momma! I live in a small home purchased after my husband died. It is a cozy well-structured home 120 years old. 50 thousand and I have everything I need. Experiences seem more appealing than endless care for a ridiculously large home with no lawn. Thanks for your transparency, Joshua.