Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Lori Lippincott of Loving Simple Living.
“If you are facing in the right direction, all you need to do is keep on walking.”
While I may still be relatively new to minimalism, I find great value sharing with others the process that has brought me here step-by-step.
Sometimes, it is hard to imagine the process that goes behind the scenes in the life of a minimalist. But from my conversations, I have found most seem to follow the same general path, thought-process, and even struggles throughout their journey. You may be further along than me, you may be struggling through the first steps, or you may have stumbled upon this site and are being introduced to minimalism for the first time. But no matter where you currently place yourself on the journey, considering the life cycle of a minimalist will surely bring encouragement to you.
The Life Cycle of a Minimalist:
- Stress, Overwhelmed, Searching – Everyone reaches the point where they are open to change differently. It might be a money crunch, or a time crunch. It might be a searching for purpose. It might be wanting more energy for a relationship that is valuable to you. Somewhere, something blows a little steam switch in your brain and you decide (intentionally or not) that maybe the way you are doing things isn’t working as well as you thought.
- Awareness – You see or hear of someone who is living a minimalist lifestyle. Sure you know you don’t need things to be happy, but the idea of intentionally living with much less never really entered your mind. It’s not rocket science, but for some reason, you never really considered it an option before. Initially it may seem crazy, but as the idea sits for a while it seems less and less crazy, just different.
- Curiosity – As the idea sits in your head you look for other information. You may look online for blogs, read books, or talk to friends. You start to play out the idea in your head when you look at your house imagining what it might look like if you made the change.
- Action – Your imagination sticks its toe in the water of reality. You tackle the first project. It may be as simple as cleaning out a closet, the family junk drawer, or a spare room. For me it was cleaning off a bookshelf. I was amazed to discover I could easily get rid of 80% of its contents.
- Excitement – After the first project, a new sense of excitement emerges. Closets start getting emptied, floors get covered in piles, the basement looks like a tornado hit, and the car won’t fit in the garage. You develop the distinct goal to live a more simple, minimalist lifestyle and it is exciting as you begin.
- Setback – You hit a setback. It might be work gets busy and you have less time in the evening to declutter, you might hit a family emergency, someone might question why you are doing what you are doing (because sadly, that is one of our biggest fears in life). Or maybe you get rid of something you end up needing and have to go buy again making you question your own sanity.
- Exhaustion – Stepping over piles and having the house torn apart gets old. Spending all the time sorting has tired you out. Finding people to buy or places to donate has become frustrating. The process seems never ending and it feels like the house is just as full as it was when you started. Your excitement is waning and your energy is on its last leg.
- Strength – Finally some big piles get moved out. Maybe a garage sale or your 10th trip to the Goodwill drop-off finally let you see the light at the end of the tunnel. For the first time in years you realize that you actually know what is in your house (all the closets, garage, and more) and what is still there is what you have specifically chosen to keep. Finally it feels like you are over the hump and excited about the real progress you have made.
- Incorrect Finish line – You get to the end. You have gone through everything in your house and got rid of lots. Maybe 30%, 50%, 80% of your material belongings? The place looks different. It looks and feels so good. You pat yourself on the back for a job well done.
- More decluttering – Over the next few months, while walking around your house and cleaning, you find more and more items you are willing to remove. Maybe you were afraid to get rid of it during the first big sorting, but now you don’t know why you kept it. You end up with more and more sale and donation piles growing around your house again.
- Holidays or stuff purchasing slips – Your home begins to collect more material things through holidays, gifts, or your old purchasing habit that sometimes sneaks around the corner and catches you off-guard.
- More decluttering – Dealing with #11 and still living #10.
- More decluttering – Realizing #10 is still going on a year down the road… and #11 really never ends fully.
- Understanding that right sizing your life is not a destination but a journey. Whether you keep cutting back or life changes require you to gain more material possessions, you stick to intentionally owning only what you need and truly want. You have learned how to make possessions a servant instead of a master and have exercised your control over it. You have reached the other side, but the other side is much more personal mastery than you originally thought. It isn’t so much about a specific number of things you own, but a healthy understanding of the proper place of material things in your life. You are free to tackle growth in other areas of your life… always striving to grow and becoming a better version of yourself.
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Lorilee Lippincott writes at Loving Simple Living.
Carla says
Great article. Thank you kindly for reminding me I’m not completely insane.
Carl says
What a ride!
I’m in my fifties, single guy working as a mining exec so spending and accumulating were second nature. The additional hassle was having a low working class (basically poverty) background. When you can’t have anything you want something, regretably when you can have anything you then overcompensate and want everything.
Most things in life that are good – diet, exercise… take effort and the not so good – being lazy, smoking, junk food etc. are instantly gratifying and self rewarding. Minimalism would be the first thing I have done that is life changing where the process is rewarding as you progress. Minimalism and the unloading of dust laden stuff was like an express train bearing down and picking up speed.
The rewards were instant and as cupboards became bare, things got dispatched it was addictive. I ended up having to go to the tip at night. In my small mining community, people only start off loading when they are quitting and leaving town – I wasn’t but the questions I was getting asked clearly indicate people thought I had gone a bit potty.
When my parents come and go after their mid year visit, the rest of everything goes – telly, stereo, unused furniture. Won’t come soon enough.
Recently I came to the realization that I will not need to renew my home contents insurance. All that is left to steal will be a watch, lap-top, camera and guitar. Pinching the couch or dinning room table and a bed would be a tad pointless.
I am relentlessly stuck on point 5 and as I am selling stuff and reducing expenditure at the same time I have had reverse cash flow into my bank account for two months – weird.
I have no doubt people I know would now think me eccentric (polite descriptor) – I don’t care. I live in my world, with my values and I like it here. Never been happier and the only regret is not starting sooner.
More power to you all and thanks for your collective advice and wisdom.
Elizabeth Tai says
Interestingly, for me, 2 & 3 came at the tail end of my journey. I didn’t realise I was heading down the minimalist path at all. Heck, I thought minimalism was a kind of interior design concept, not a way of living. I can’t for the life of me remember how I found out about the minimalist lifestyle, but when I did it was like a lightbulb went off in my head! Over the years, I got rid of most of my debt – paid off the car – and the decluttered and got rid of 80% of my possessions because I was moving countries. I found my 1000-sq feet apartment too huge for me so I rented it out and moved in with my bro. I was amazed at the weight that lifted off my shoulders and how stress-less life had become. I am now living from my suitcase and have never been happier. It’s nice to find other people on the same journey.
I have always been puzzled why people would want to buy big houses or fancy cars.
John Smith says
I’ve been a minimalist my entire 40 years.
I just don’t understand the love of things.
There are really only 2 things you need to be financially successful in the USA.
1) A strong work ethic (for me that means working on things I love, and not working for a corporation).
2) Despise material things (avoid them unless an absolute need exists).
If you do the 2 items above you will likely end up with more money than you know what to do with. I retired age 35 and was not born with a silver spoon in my mouth, rather dirt poor.
I know where my minimalism comes from. I was raised by my Grandfather who passed away when I was 16. He lived through The Great Depression, and either by choice or by circumstance became a minimalist.
My Grandfather taught me that the important things in life are relationships and life itself .. living, not planning to live, but living!
With minimalism I’ve rarely done things for any other reason than believing it was the right thing to do.
I obtained several degrees in several different fields because the learning process intrigued me. The money came simply by happenstance.
After all when you have nothing to buy (but the necessities) you find yourself with a lot of free time to do what you love and a lot of money piling up.
I know my friends are true friends because they have no idea that I’m wealthy, because I don’t show it.
I wish all those embarking on minimalism the best. I have little doubt that most people will find it far better than a life as a “conspicuous consumper”.
Kelekona says
I’ve been wandering around other minimalist blogs and wonder if a few of the more extreme ones have a similar mental quirk as the hoarders. It might even be the same quirk as the hoarders, but at the opposite end. Or the minimalism is a backlash against hoarding, like someone being a complete teetotaler because they’re afraid one beer will turn them into an alcoholic.
For clarification, I’m talking about people who can’t put a fried egg in their ramen because they only have one saucepan.
It would be harder to tell because while hoarders tend to attract the health department, extreme minimalists mainly draw passive attention. The biggest indicator of a problem is the phrase “I can’t visit you because I have no place to sit.” The hoarder because all surfaces are buried, the extreme minimalist because their only furniture is a pad on the floor to sleep on.
Kara says
Absolutely! I reached the last one about three months ago. We moved And purchased our first home. I had already spent a year clearing our belonging to fit our rental. I spent the first three mo ths after we moved making weekly trips to the goodwill with full car loads. It takes a few weeks for me to gather enough to donate to the women’s shelter or elsewhere, but I realized after a year and a half that it is a journey. There will alway be a pile of items that need given away in the garage. So I made a ho e for them. There are days that I take time off from picking up after my hubb or kids because I am off having me time, and it’s wonderful to know that five minutes in each room and the house looks slick and span. For me it was a journey that started because of needing more time playing and wanting to keep what I do have in good shape. Very well written, thank you.
Jen says
This is such a great way to see this journey borken down – it is certainly not straightforward! I think I am currently somewhere between 5 and 7, if that’s possible! I often feel excited at the possibility of having less stuff, it’s such a good feeling! But then I do get a little overwhelmed and exhausted when I think about all the work I still have to do… I have done some decluttering by getting rid of about half my books (I’m a book nut so that’s a big deal!) as well as some clothes. I still have a lot to do and the thought of it is a bit scary. I’m sort of waiting until we move house next (will be in the next year or so) and I think I’ll do it all then. Unless that’s just procrastination, of course…
Sarah says
Oh #11. I have actually told my friends and family about MY family’s minimalistic culture all during the 3-year process of getting to #14. Those who love and KNOW us have been tactfully and lovingly told not to ‘gift’ us with anything unless it is a perishable item (like Christmas cookies or garden seeds) or it is intended to replace something we already have (like a skillet or jacket). Some of my family are still trying to figure out what ‘perishable’ means, but many others gladly accommodate our request. It seems to take a burden off of them to know they can NOT include us on THEIR shopping list and they are doing us a favor. Isn’t that a blessing in itself?
Erin says
Lovely, lovely post! It’s funny, I actually went 1-4-2-3 and am now trying to balance 5 with my original intention of 4. As I was starting a new site to chronicle some conscious changes I wanted to make in my life, my husband suggested casually one night that we each get rid of a thing a day for the next year. We’re now about two and a half weeks in and I’m itching to let go of most of what I own. I recently wrote about trying to balance the urge to just purge everything now with the intention to consciously develop a habit of paying attention to my physical environment (I know there are other dimensions but gotta start somewhere!) and mindfully allowing only those things I deem necessary to stay. I can totally see myself going through the rest of the stages you’ve listed here — nice to know what’s probably coming :-)
Brigitte says
My story or “life-cycle” is quite different. I was diagnosed with Bipolar II disorder 1 year ago and have probably suffered from the illness since I was a child. I discovered that during a manic episode shopping can become an addiction. I experienced this in a severe degree about 6 months prior to being diagnosed. I became obsessive about finding the best bargain for what would normally be a very expensive or collectable item. Goodwill and E-bay were taking up every waking moment. Then suddenly purging and organizing took over. I sometimes cringe over what was donated, literally 20 to 25 full garbage bags. That’s when I started searching on the internet for other “crazy” people like me! I was shocked to fined there were rational people who actually chose to live this way. Once I started reading blog after blog on Minimalism, I started to realize the belongings that had survived the purging were no longer as important to me. Now as I slowly reduce what is left, (many sentimental items and collections that I’d saved for 40 years or more), I feel like a weight has been lifted and I can finally move on and live life in the present not the past. 49 years is a long time to live that way. I sometimes regret all the years that were lost holding on to things in fear of losing the memories of my childhood and of my mother who passed away way to young. Things that were too precious to be discarded, were lovingly wrapped and stored in boxes rarely seeing the light of day.
Belongings I did keep are now out where I can enjoy them. My Husband, children and grandchild are finally getting the attention they deserve. I can’t express how grateful I am that they never gave up on me I believe Minimalism has saved my life.