Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Jacob Jolibois.
Minimalism removes the meaningless to make room for the meaningful.
Properly understood, it is easy to get caught up in the minimalist lifestyle. The idea of removing the meaningless to make room for the meaningful is attractive to many.
Before long, garbage bags line the edge of the road and the backseat of the car is loaded with boxes for Goodwill. But as we finalize the details on our latest eBay auction, we may sit back and wonder, “Now what?”
What was the point of this exercise anyway? What is the “meaningful” that we are supposed to be making room for? While some people are born knowing precisely what they want to do with their lives, some of us live in a constant state of misdirection, unsure of our purpose. Every shiny thing we try, we soon discover, is not what we thought it would be.
As a result, minimalism becomes just another shiny thing we discard when it doesn’t fulfill us. But, if we discover our meaningful pursuits, minimalism becomes a tool that empowers us to realize it.
Here then, are six important questions to help anyone discover their unique, most meaningful pursuits:
1. What currently leads to most of my happiness and fulfillment?
“This is the true joy of life, the being used up for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one.” —George Bernard Shaw
Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto discovered a principle wherein 80% of results stem from 20% of the causes. Therefore, if we could pinpoint the 20% of activity that supplies 80% of our happiness and fulfillment, we could begin taking steps toward maximizing our time and resources within the 20% and moving away from the 80%. Be intentional about breaking down what makes you happy and leverage your minimalist lifestyle to make time for those activities.
2. What concern or problem do I feel most compelled to solve?
“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.” —Martin Luther King, Jr.
Martin Luther King, Jr. illuminated the heart and soul of defining our “why”: others. In a world where individualistic concerns are championed, the world-changers and the misfits must unite around a cause larger than themselves. It is there that we will find an answer to our “why” that wells up inside of us and motivates us to make a difference.
3. What would I spend my day doing if I knew I couldn’t fail?
After answering this question, answer a second—what is the worst case scenario if you attempt it now and fail? I would be willing to bet that most of you will discover the worst case scenario isn’t all that bad. If we give our fears a name, they tend to shrink. They’re like the wizard behind the curtain—only an illusion.
“There are two types of people in this world. There are people who see the thing they want and there are people who see the thing preventing them from getting what they want.” —Unknown
4. What do I get so consumed with that I forget to eat or sleep?
“Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there’s love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.” —Ella Jane Fitzgerald
Purpose is found at the convergence of passion and service. What makes each of us unique is the sum of our individual experiences, traits, skills, interests, and aptitudes. We must tap into the practices that fulfill us and find a way to marry it with our cause (see the answers to questions 2 and 3). There we will find our “why”.
5. What does my perfect day look like?
“If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.” —Cheshire Cat, Alice in Wonderland
Outlining a clear picture of our “why” in practical terms gives us clarity and direction instead of a vague, romanticized goal. It allows us to dig into the details and honestly ask ourselves what we desire. With this clear destination in mind, we can be proactive in our journey.
6. What is one step I can take this week toward realizing my “meaningful?”
“A vision without a task is but a dream, a task without a vision is drudgery, a vision and a task is the hope of the world.” —From a church in Sussex, England, ca.1730
Now that we have named our values, burdens, fears, passions and goals, we have a better understanding of why we do what we do. Though we may not have all of the answers now, we have a place from which to start.
At this point, it is crucial to give ourselves a few small wins in the beginning to build momentum. Write down at least one step you can take this week toward your purpose. It could be reaching out to a friend, writing an outline, or setting aside $100.
The important thing is to start. And to discover more and more space to pursue it.
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Jacob Jolibois writes at JacobJolibois.com, helping others craft a simple, yet impactful life. You can also find him on Twitter.
Jacob–Thanks for your help. I am changing careers–which is a GOOD thing. I have been trying to figure out what to do as my second chapter. Your article really helped.
Recently I have learnt a new word – “retooling”.
I lost my husband exactly a year ago yesterday. It was sudden. He was only 52. I am trying to heal from his loss. I would like to find a way of keeping myself meaningfully busy. I do have interests and skills.
Jacob, this article helps.
I have done Vipassana meditation that really helped.
I’m retired, daily decluttering and minimalizing (for at least 10 years now). Getting better at it every day. Now what dear youngsters?
1. Look back and see what I’ve missed?
2. Play with our children, grand children, great grand children, and just check off the days as they pass?
No, it’s time to strike out once again, to find what has escaped me so far. I’ll give a shot at those questions? Happy trails. ;-)
Yes. I’ve been wondering about this blank slate I seem to be since becoming minimalist– I just don’t know what I enjoy anymore. Looking forward to going through the Uncluttered course and maybe pinpoint a few of my dreams/desires :)
I was just considering your thoughts at the beginning of this article in a post I recently wrote (linked). But, I realized, as I read through your subsequent questions, that I think I am finally doing what I have always loved but didn’t give myself a chance to do, and that is write. I get completely lost in the writing of a letter, blog post, story, poem. It brings me joy to reach others through the written word and point them back to God. My struggle is with #2, that larger cause that I can pour myself into. The world is so beleaguered with troubles, it is hard to know which one I will devote myself to. I need to consider this one further. Thank you for the list!
Thank you for these questions. I guess I’ve got some soul-searching to do now. I especially like numbers 3 and 5. There are many things I would do if I knew I couldn’t fail. How do we get past that fear of failure and take that leap? I feel like Batman trapped in the prison-pit in The Dark Knight Rises sometimes. At what point do we jump with no rope?
I love the journey! :)