My grandfather, one of the most influential men in my life, never opened a Facebook account. Of course, he was 82 when Facebook was founded.
Similarly, my grandfather never had a Tik-Tok account. Of course, he was 95 when Tik-Tok started.
But he proved an important point with his life and influence:
You don’t need to be on social media to make a difference in the world.
In fact, some of the most influential women and men in my life were not and are not on social media. In some ways, I look up to them because of it.
Let me begin, quickly, by pointing out what I am not saying. I am not saying that you cannot make a difference in the world on social media. In fact, nearly every day, I try to use social media positively, to reach people with the message of minimalism, owning less, and living an intentional life focused on the things that matter most.
I am active on several different platforms and have certainly used the power of the platform to spread my message and build a community. There is no doubt I get to do what I do because of social media.
But just because I have (hopefully) been able to make a difference in the world through social media doesn’t mean it is required.
There are countless ways to make a positive difference in the world—and social media is rarely required for any of them.
Even worse, too often, the distraction of social media may actually keep us from making our biggest difference in the world.
Social media steals our time and our attention. It often negatively influences our mood or how we see the world and the people around us. Rather than inspiring us to make a difference, it results in only greater feelings of inadequacy.
Sometimes the people closest to us feel the brunt of our social media use the most. We ignore the conversations right in front of us to scroll endless feeds, or take out on them the negative emotions sparked in us through those feeds. As a result, we sacrifice away our greatest opportunity for impact.
It is certainly possible to make a positive difference in the world through social media. But it is not required.
You don’t need social media to parent your children well.
You don’t need social media to call your neighbor for coffee.
You don’t need social media to show up for your friend’s cancer screening.
You don’t need social media to help your co-worker with that tough project.
You don’t need social media to mentor a young man in your community.
You don’t need social media to volunteer at your local nonprofit.
You don’t need social media to write a letter to a struggling friend.
You don’t need social media to tell your small group of friends about a problem in the world.
You don’t need social media to pray for a loved one.
You don’t need social media to lead others.
You don’t need social media to show empathy, kindness, and compassion.
You don’t need social media to financially help a family in poverty.
And you don’t need social media to share your story—of hurt, loss, pain, success, victory, or redemption.
Social media can be a positive tool, indeed.
But it can also become a powerful distraction.
Either way, it is not required for influence.
I am introverted—- so being on social media never appealed to me. I am happily under the radar.
Greetings from Fiji.you told a lots of on point .I appreciate the wake up call and I will start myself.Thank you.
Amazing article with so much truth. Thank you.
I found when I was off Facebook the only media account I had I was wasting my time time and getting moody and when someone interrupted my scrolling I was not a happy camper
Meant to say when I was on Facebook
I needed this. I recently deactivated the social media accounts that were causing the most strife in my inner world. I have felt a bit like I was giving up. But you’re absolutely right, the increased time and focus have absolutely allowed me to invest more in people right here and that is making a difference.
Thank you for saying this, as so much enunciation is put on social media, especially in certain fields, it feels overwhelming at times. I have 2 social media accounts I use the most, and even then, I drastically cut them back to groups that help me grow or learn.
I have a few accounts on different social media platform. I just try to limit what I can share on each and even declutter whom I follow and who can follow me. I have this idea that if I am not even able to converse with you in person in this lifetime, I will not allow you to be in my connection on social media.
You have been able to make a difference in the world through social media.
He noted that.