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Becoming Minimalist

Own less. Live more. Finding minimalism in a world of consumerism.

Why Self-Worth Is More Important than Net-Worth

Written by joshua becker · 57 Comments

When we change our thinking, we are freed to pursue a life worthy of esteem and respect that is not tied to our possessions. Consider these steps to improve your self-worth regardless of your net-worth.

“There is no value in life except what you choose to place upon it and no happiness in any place except what you bring to it yourself.” – Henry David Thoreau

Net-worth: Your assets minus your debts.

Self-worth: The quality of being worthy of esteem or respect.

As humans, it is in our nature to compare ourselves to others. Unfortunately, because we can only compare the things that we can objectively measure, we live in a world that is great at measuring and comparing externals. Somewhere along the way, we decided that we could determine who is living a more valuable life by comparing their clothes, cars, homes, and paychecks.

Simply put, we tied self-worth to net-worth. As a painful result, we began to make judgements about our own life value by the possessions that we own. But, in reality, our life is far more valuable than the things that we own.

The wages that we earn provide for our lives, but they do not define our lives. (tweet that)

Fortunately, when we change our thinking on this matter, we are freed to pursue a life worthy of esteem and respect that is not tied to our possessions. Consider these 8 steps to improve your self-worth regardless of your net-worth.

1. Live a life of integrity and character. There is no greater feeling than laying your head on your pillow at night having no regrets in your dealings with others. Consider the immeasurable value that comes from looking back over your entire life and seeing the same thing.

2. Cultivate worthy endeavors that are available in infinite supply. There is no limit to the amount of love you can show, the amount of hope you can spread, or the number of encouraging words you can speak. Cultivate these things in liberal supply. They will cost you nothing, but will begin to mean everything.

3. Delight in your uniqueness. The fact that you are different from everybody else makes you valuable. Be comfortable with yourself and proud of yourself. Don’t suppress it or hide it. Instead, do the opposite: Champion your uniqueness.

4. Give away your most valuable resource. The most precious resource we own is our time. Therefore, the most precious thing that we can ever give to another person is our time. Make a habit of giving it away to others.

5. Live courageously. Find the mental strength to accept new challenges without regards to the fear that may lie beneath. Live with great expectations about what your life can become and accomplish.

6. Develop self-confidence. A confident person feels better about themselves, stands up taller, and smiles more. A confident person does not follow the crowd or try to become someone else. A confident person focuses on their achievements and anticipates their next opportunity in life with excitement. And if you’re struggling with this now, there’s always time to learn how to be more confident.

7. Embrace your weaknesses. There are no perfect people in this world. We all have struggles and weaknesses. I have found that one of the best ways to identify with others is in our weakness. When we admit that we need help, we are finally ready to interact with others on a truly valuable level.

8. Make the most of every opportunity. Each new day brings with it new opportunities. Don’t waste a single one. Do everything you do with quality and excellence.

Your true self-worth is up to you. Increase it. Don’t allow your life’s pursuit to be caught up in the acquisition of material things – that makes for a nice net-worth, but not necessarily a high self-worth. And self-worth trumps net-worth any day.

Comments

  1. Rayna says

    January 14, 2023 at 9:29 AM

    I am just starting my simplifying minimalist journey and am finding your articles very helpful. Thank you.

    Reply
  2. Networth says

    September 29, 2022 at 10:10 AM

    Self Worth and net worth are two different things. Self Worth always remains on priority while net worth is a secondary subject.

    Reply
  3. Cliff Black says

    February 11, 2021 at 12:29 AM

    Life – Work Balance

    NOT

    Work – Life Balance

    Reply
  4. Wayne Woodall says

    August 16, 2020 at 11:15 AM

    Thank you

    Reply
  5. David says

    November 10, 2019 at 7:34 PM

    Very idealistic but very impractical. Such things don’t pay the bills. A man is of little worth if he can’t support his family.

    Reply
    • joshua becker says

      November 10, 2019 at 8:53 PM

      You understood this article to mean a man shouldn’t support his family?

      Reply
      • Doug says

        February 10, 2021 at 6:47 AM

        WSJ warrior…? Do you write your own bio

        Reply
        • joshua becker says

          February 10, 2021 at 7:56 AM

          Thanks for the question. I don’t understand it. WSJ warrior?

          Reply
          • Eddie says

            February 10, 2021 at 9:00 AM

            Great read & insights Josh…appreciate every post. (apparently, a couple of commenters need to read it again!)

  6. Miles says

    March 20, 2017 at 6:33 AM

    Good stuff thanks.

    Reply
  7. Roxanne says

    August 10, 2016 at 8:07 PM

    Very encouraging!

    Reply
  8. Heidi says

    August 10, 2016 at 6:46 PM

    I left my partner a little less than to years ago. Everyone, and I mean everyone was telling me that I would have to work and put my kids in daycare and give up ‘raising them’ in order to provide for them. I do continue to fight the stereotype of a single mom everyday but I never gave in to that thinking. My time is valuable, the most precious thing I have to give and I choose to give as much of it as I can to my young children who need it the most right now. I work at a job that provides me with what we need to live and gives me the flexibility to take time to spend with my kids, holidays etc. I have to say no to a lot of ‘money laden outings’ with friends and their kids but when I make alternate suggestions that cost us no more than groceries, they always appreciate it and we have more time to actually talk and be with one another and our children. Not to say there aren’t things I wish I could do but that will come in time. My priority is and always will me the time I can spend with my children, time not the money!

    Great article, it’s nice to find others who don’t think my way of thinking is crazy!

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    • Liberty says

      March 20, 2017 at 8:34 AM

      Kudos to you, Heidi! As a fellow single mom, I can say with enthusiasm that your time with your children will be their most treasured memories (and yours)! I, too, teach my children frugality doesn’t mean lack, it merely means more variety of choices in life.

      Reply
  9. crystal says

    February 14, 2016 at 3:52 AM

    9. Be grateful for what you have. This might seem obvious, but acknowledging your current provisions, good health, relationships, a place to sleep, fresh air, food in the cupboard etc makes a difference to self worth.

    Reply
    • Blaise says

      November 11, 2019 at 12:25 AM

      Yes! Thank you Joshua and excellent addition, Crystal!

      Reply
  10. A.L.T. says

    October 19, 2015 at 3:38 AM

    You inspire me every day.

    Thank you.

    Reply
  11. Miss A says

    July 21, 2015 at 7:50 AM

    I am ‘championing my uniqueness’ right now and delighting in the next stages of my life. Since finding your blog early this year (and reading Marie Kondo’s book), I have released about 75% of my ‘hoarding’ (for that is the best way to describe the sheer volume of ‘stuff’ I had accumulated over 20+ years …. including my father & grandmothers things). I got rid of over 1,000 books alone! Most items were sold, and the money given to family members – they in turn were able to fix cars (three in fact!), buy friends lunch (which gave one family member a lovely experience to remember as they can’t usually afford frivolous things like that), and also paid for other experiences. I am still working on the 25% … and am getting there finally! I’m also just about to start my own business – doing something I truly love. I’m finally going to finish writing my book as I now have a clear headspace, physical space and more time. Thank you for all your brilliant posts, and constant Facebook feed – this is one important thing that helps keep me motivated on a daily basis.

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    • Bonni says

      July 21, 2015 at 9:44 AM

      Well said. I agree. I have begun giving people ‘memories’ for Christmas. Last Christmas I gave my son and his little family a ‘promissory note’ of sorts, namely a family pass to the Ripley’s Aquarium in Toronto. They redeemed the voucher a few weeks ago and spent a wonderful afternoon learning and exploring. I dare you to ask my four year old grand daughter anything about jellyfish and sea turtles. They were her favourite. There is nothing that retains information like the mind of a child.

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      • SUSAN DYE HILL says

        June 12, 2021 at 8:46 PM

        I stopped Christmas giving years ago. Instead, on each grandchild’s birthday, I take him out for the day: whatever he wants to eat, whatever he wants to do. They don’t seem to miss the Christmas gifts.

        Reply
  12. Atilio says

    April 23, 2015 at 11:02 PM

    “Embrace your weaknesses” thank you for this concept. I never came accross it before you posted it. It changed my life.

    Reply
  13. Lori says

    January 30, 2015 at 7:19 AM

    Thanks for another good word. Love your blog. Always encouraging.

    Reply
  14. Cory Cook says

    November 8, 2014 at 11:56 AM

    Great article Joshua,

    I especially like number 4. It is funny because I assume that is why that popular quote, “Time is Money” came about.

    Enjoyed reading it, really nice tips for self improvement!

    Best regards,
    Cory

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    • ed morgan says

      May 8, 2015 at 12:01 PM

      AMEN!!! to the eight points of why self worth is infinitely more valuable than net worth Especially when we apply biblical text to the eight points…..such as,
      1. Integrity.. Proverbs 20:7 The integrity of the upright shall guide them: but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them.
      2. Worth Endeavors…Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.
      3. Uniqueness… Romans 12:1-21 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, [which is] your reasonable service.
      4. Give Away Your Most Valuable Resource…Proverbs 11:24 One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want.
      5. Live Courageously….Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
      6. Develop Self-confidence…Joshua 1:9 Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God [is] with thee whithersoever thou goest.
      7. Embrace your weaknesses…2 Cor. 12:9-10 My Grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore, I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak then am I strong.
      8. Make the most of every opportunity…Ephesians 5:16 These are evil times, so make every minute count.

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      • Anne Daniel says

        October 18, 2015 at 2:38 AM

        The Biblical principles behind Joshua Becker’s writing is what keeps me reading. Reminders of what we find in God’s Word. Thank you for matching up today’s writing to chap and verse. I found this very helpful.

        Reply
      • Emma Butler says

        January 5, 2023 at 7:04 AM

        Wow this was a great read. The word of God is awesome!

        Reply
  15. Kathryn Kasprzak says

    October 27, 2014 at 6:29 AM

    Thoughtful content, well written. Thank you for an essay that sets the tone for the day, the week, the year.

    Reply
  16. Bubba says

    July 14, 2014 at 9:37 AM

    Begin by turning off the A/C and find which one is more important.

    Reply
  17. Shayera says

    April 14, 2014 at 3:50 AM

    I believe most of what you’ve listed here are espoused in Aloe Blacc’s song “The Man”. The last 2 lines of the first verse are a celebration of our differences as individuals – we’ve all been blessed with unique gifts to perform different roles on earth, thus we should strive to fulfill our purpose for the betterment of all in the world. http://msshayera.blogspot.com/2014/04/a-dissection-of-aloe-blaccs-man.html

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  18. Anna Prountzou says

    October 10, 2013 at 2:08 AM

    Thank you for this, I needed to read this today in particular. It has helped me make up my mind about an important decision that I need to make today.

    Reply
  19. di says

    August 29, 2013 at 6:30 AM

    Everything has limitations.

    We all have regrets that are difficult to remedy. Love and good intentions are not always accepted.

    Reply
    • Tingly says

      March 20, 2017 at 8:22 AM

      That actually makes really good sense-.perhaps you can be too extreme in these things, although it does sound appealing

      Reply
  20. Chuck Stocks says

    August 10, 2013 at 7:51 AM

    This is a fabulous piece. I’ve never seen the case made so eloquently and so simply.

    Reply
  21. PATRICIA ARMSTRONG says

    August 10, 2013 at 5:05 AM

    Am glad to see younger people going in the direction of grasping life for what it has to offer and not being obsessed with possessions.

    Reply
    • di says

      August 29, 2013 at 6:00 AM

      The slow economy prohibits many from accumulating.

      Reply
  22. Jessica says

    July 22, 2013 at 9:20 AM

    I really enjoyed your article. My husband and I started de-cluttering our lives last year in preparation for long term world travel. After every item we sold or gave away, it felt like a physical weight had been lifted. Resizing from a 2500 square foot house to just two large hiking backpacks feels so liberating. We also learned that even by down sizing that much we still have too much crap! We are now enjoying a life of travel free of excessive possessions and we couldn’t be happier.

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    • Liberty says

      March 20, 2017 at 8:29 AM

      Such fun! Jessica, May the road always be your teacher and may you always enjoy its lessons! Have a wonderful and safe journey in you and your spouse’s adventures!

      Reply
  23. Amy @WorldschoolAdventures says

    June 9, 2013 at 7:37 PM

    Yes! I especially like number 5. There have been so many times in my life where I have wanted to do something but was afraid to try and so I didn’t do it.
    Live Courageously!!!

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    • di says

      August 29, 2013 at 6:31 AM

      What made you afraid?

      Reply
  24. Kay says

    June 9, 2013 at 10:26 AM

    Just love your blog. I’ve been reading it after a friend shared it on fb. Always insightful, challenging and, the best part….helping me re-think how I live my life and then actually know how to make changes. Thank you!

    Reply
    • di says

      August 29, 2013 at 6:32 AM

      Logic and common sense…

      Reply
  25. Katty Elizabeth says

    June 9, 2013 at 7:40 AM

    Another great post. Thank you Joshua.

    Reply
  26. Amber @ Mamas Blissful Bites says

    June 9, 2013 at 7:17 AM

    Beautiful and inspiring! Thank you for sharing :)

    Reply
  27. Richard Bliss Brooke says

    June 9, 2013 at 6:05 AM

    Beautiful words and a truth that will set men free. Ego turns life into a competition…one that can never be won and whatever spoils one does accumulate can be taken by reversal of fortune or death in one heartbeat with no notice. The memories provided by a life well lived can never be erased.

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    • di says

      August 29, 2013 at 6:33 AM

      Seek contentment.

      Reply
  28. Mark Welch says

    June 9, 2013 at 4:54 AM

    The minimalist philosophy is quite congruent with Christianity. Read any of the four Gospels and you’ll see it.

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  29. Alisha says

    June 9, 2013 at 3:48 AM

    “Champion your uniqueness.”

    I like that.

    Reply
    • Amy says

      May 12, 2016 at 4:34 AM

      Me too!

      Reply
  30. Joshua Smith says

    April 18, 2010 at 10:44 PM

    I have seen greater self worth lead to greater net worth on occasion.

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  31. Rachel says

    March 27, 2010 at 7:02 PM

    Interestingly, acquiring a lot of material things doesn’t lead to a high net worth either, any more than it leads to high self-worth. Most items depreciate in value — and many of them also cost a lot to maintain, clean, store, move, insure, etc. Most millionaires are the ones who saved their money and invested it, rather than buying a lot of expensive items.

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    • w.k.Darling says

      June 19, 2013 at 4:53 AM

      Sorry Rachel, hope you have ‘seen the light’ since your March 27, 2010. comment.! You used the word ‘millionaires’ in a monetary ‘net worth’ sense, and ‘items’ depreciating in value. Cheap monetary-minded man can manipulate these values to-suit or impress lie(like)- minded mortals, but those who really treasure those invaluable human qualities live the true high-life to immortality! In the words of a millionaire songwriter ” money can’t buy me LOVE “, LOVE is given freely, any cost is quickly discounted when reciprocated, appreciated, acknowledged, shared…whatever, but it would be obscene to put a monetary value on it.

      Personally, I favour a more ‘caring and responsible’ society based on measures of WELLBEING allowing individuals the freedom to follow/develop their passions, maximise their abilities (or special gifts) without societal constraints, especially when the very ‘common’ denominator(money) corrupts their pursuit and journey to fulfilment(‘enlightenment’ for some). AMEN (seems a fitting conclusion, eh?)

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      • di says

        August 29, 2013 at 6:42 AM

        There will always be different degrees of well-being, caring, responsibility, passions, abilities, freedom, constraints, corruption and enlightenment.

        We’re human…

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    • Gail Bruce says

      January 30, 2015 at 7:38 PM

      So true!

      Reply
  32. Sandy says

    March 19, 2010 at 12:52 PM

    Great post! Inspiring words full of wisdom. I’ve been following your blog for a while now and really enjoy it. Gives me the encouragement I need to keep on in my journey towards minimalism/simplicity. Thank you!

    Reply
  33. Joy Tanksley says

    March 15, 2010 at 12:26 PM

    This is lovely. It makes me think of an idea I came across through my Nia practice of our “Cosmic Salary.” Thinking about our cosmic salary helps us redefine the iea of income by looking at all the other things we “earn” when we follow our passions.

    Reply
    • Mindy Mock says

      January 3, 2013 at 8:57 AM

      I love the term “Cosmic Salary.” I have never heard it used before.

      Reply
    • Liberty says

      March 20, 2017 at 8:24 AM

      Awesomely articulated, Joy! Thanks for your wisdom! ????

      Reply
  34. Willow says

    March 15, 2010 at 11:37 AM

    Smart words to live by. I have seen humans gauge their worth by the number of pigs they own, how many wives they can afford, the number of homes or cars they have, and the amount of money they have in invested in stocks and bonds. Happiness and wisdom did not necessarily correspond.

    Reply

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