“What is without periods of rest will not endure.” —Ovid
Recently, I spent a few weeks on vacation. The time was filled with travel, reconnecting with family, playing golf, swimming, sleeping, and reading. As you can probably imagine, it was quite enjoyable. But more than that, it was desperately needed.
Consider the benefits that rest offers:
- a healthier body.
- more balance.
- less stress.
- deeper relationships.
- better opportunity to evaluate life’s direction.
- a new, fresh outlook.
- increased productivity.
Yet, despite all the proven benefits of rest, intentionally setting aside regular time for rest is a practice that has become undervalued and underappreciated in today’s culture. We have become overworked, overstressed, and exhausted. Yet, Sabbath (setting aside one day each week for rest) remains a dying practice that less and less people practice regularly (never mind the idea of actually taking a two-week vacation).
Overlooking the importance of rest is certainly not unique to our modern society. But our culture has made it increasingly difficult to take rest without specific intentionality.
Consider some of the factors prevalent in our modern society that argue against the idea of rest:
• Rest has become confused with laziness. We live in a society that praises those who work 60hrs/week and makes faulty assumptions about those who work 40. We have confused rest with laziness. And while too much rest may indeed be an indicator of sloth, the regular practice of finding rest is not.
• The desire for money has become unquenchable. Modern society loves money. We love it to a point that we will sacrifice much of ourselves to gain more of it. Some sacrifice morals, character, or family. Others consider rest a fair trade… and will gladly sacrifice it at the altar of the almighty dollar.
• Success is measured incorrectly. Similarly, we have begun to measure success by the amount of cash in savings, the size of our homes, or the model of our cars. The nicer one’s lot in life, the more successful they must be. Unfortunately, this is a faulty measure of success. The true test of success should be measured in significance rather than success. But often times finding significance requires us to rest long enough to recalibrate our lives around the things that matter most.
• We live in a world that is always “on”. While electricity may have made it easier to work late into the night, the Internet has surrounded us with opportunities and relationships 24 hours/day. Today’s world never stops. And when the possibility to make money every hour of the day is combined with the desire to do so, rest quickly gets pushed aside.
• A false sense of urgency surrounds us at every moment. We live in a world that floods our minds with so much information that it has become difficult to sort out the important from the unimportant. As a result, the urgent needs of the day crowd out the important. And rest puts up little fight against the urgent.
• Our minds require distraction. Our minds have become addicted to stimulation and validation. As a result, it has become increasingly difficult to turn off E-mail, Facebook, or Twitter… not to mention cell phones, televisions, or the Internet. And when our minds begin to require distraction, rest becomes an increasingly difficult state to achieve.
• Rest cannot be rushed. Modern society loves shortcuts. We desire 15-minute abs, 30-minute meals, and 1-hour photos. Unfortunately, rest can never be rushed. It must be entered deliberately and allowed to complete its cycle in due time. By definition, this requires patience… and a cleared schedule.
• A misunderstanding that rest is purely physical. Rest is physical. But it is more than that. It is mental, emotional, and spiritual. It is an understanding that the world is going to survive without you. It is an inner strength that allows you to disconnect from accomplishing “work” and focus on yourself and those around you. It is not mere physical leisure. It is rest: body and soul.
I have worked hard to keep a day of rest as an important part of my life and weekly routine. But it is an upward battle that requires relentless intentionality—we live in a culture that has far too often underappreciated its value.
Kraen says
I am a fan of active rest but focusing on me time. I try once a day to fit in a walk, be it 30 minutes or 3 hrs in the outdoors, be it a hill walk or a low level walk. Either by myself or with a friend. It affords me time with only nature for distraction. I carry a phone for emergency purposes only or for taking pics. This time, however Long, allows me time to desires and digest the day. I mentally figure things out without distraction then I empty my mind and live in the moment. I find it therapeutic and allows me to recharge before going home and becoming once again mother, wife, caregiver. It costs nothing but the most precious commodity we have, which is not money but time. It helps me reconnect and as a result I function better in all roles. Fresh air, nature and rolling hills. No calls, no emails, no demands, no electronics. Just me and nature. It’s bliss
Anne Noordzy says
I agree wholeheartedly. I have been busy decluttering my house and minimalising my life in so many ways. I now have time to rest and it makes such a difference.
Nataly Havrysh says
I agree 100% and think that there should be more pieces like this to reverse this awful pressure to be successful all the time, no matter how many sacrifices you make regarding your family and rest. Of course, it is up to every person to decide, but it’s also about our common values as a society. If we only focus on success – prominent authors, inventors and sportsmen without the look on their lives – when teaching students at schools and universities, people will only come to such realizations through breakdowns and burnouts.
Adedamola says
Thank you so much for this piece, it’s a great one and also an eye opener in all ramifications. ?
Ms Baker says
Totally unheard of in today’s 24/24 virtual life :0( So irrelevant )0:
Peggy says
I too had the husband who traveled, and three children with very different needs. I volunteered a few hours most every week, homeschooled 4 years, and kept pretty busy all the days, but I did things I enjoyed. I subbed with special needs children (part time) a couple years, I subbed H S a few years, I taught Sunday School, and I took my children outdoors to play or explore the woods and parks when ever the weather was tolerable. It is fine to be “busy” when you share the things that are enjoyable. (we also kept an early, consistent bed time). I earned very little money but I did earn great relationships with my kids (and I never sent a “chatty” Christmas card telling how we stayed “busy” all year). Priorities. The simple things are the best.
Rachel says
Same?
Hélenè says
I do appreciate being reminded of the value of rest. I also, find the approach of this particular post to be overly simplistic in light of the realities of those of us who have to work multiple jobs, or those of us that might be in the thick of caregiving for children, aging parents, or ill family members. You are still right: we need rest. We require it. But how and why we get around to making it for ourselves – I think you’ve missed that for a lot of us. In saying this, I am making assumptions: that your intended audience is more than the financially affluent reader. The financially affluent reader may be able to “just do it” and make vacations happen. I hope, however, you are interested in a wider audience. You mean we’ll. That much is clear.
The piece reads like wisdom from a middle schooler who really is trying but hasn’t experienced the fatigue and complexity of physical and emotional labor in the familial network, or the reality of providing for themselves in the gig economy. I’d encourage you to research more broadly as well as clarify who your audience is. Keep at it! Props for putting your creative material into the world. That’s the first step!
Chris says
Your comment reads like a playground insult. This piece is spot on, but your arrogance and ignorance blinds you from seeing that. I am also not affluent but that doesn’t make this wrong or short-sighted. However, conceding to be a slave to the system, is short sighted. Your life is short, stop and think about it once in a while.
Elizabeth says
As a “normal, not financially affluent reader”, I really enjoy this article. I don’t think he meant that we have to take lavish vacations every year. I am a full time working woman, a mom to a 3 year old, and a wife who is pregnant. My schedule is just the right amount of busy. I don’t have the time or money to take long vacations every year. I have in the past, but right now is not the time. I find rest in kicking up my feet for 20 minutes and reading a book, from painting my nails and watching a YouTube video, from sitting in the car for 5 minutes after a long day of work. Rest in small burst is still rest. You can still rest while having a family. We simply choose to stay in or have a relaxing day instead of running errands.
lynn says
I feel that perhaps you are missing the deeper message..You dont have to take a whole day or even hours on end to caregive the self. even a few stolen moments in the restroom at work give me time to breath and rest. Even in the car one can pull over for 15 minutes to do breathwork and close ones eyes. There are all kinds of apps for your phone that can assist you with that. I am not of the elite who can take long lavish time out but I can finsd time for a massage once a month or a Reiki session and I can absolutly find 15 minutes to stretch my body a breath. I believe that is what the message is. If your just doing out of duty and not taking care of the self there will come a day when you are depleted ..that day is when respentment begins to rise up and what follows is a manifestaion of disease. NOTHING is worth it…
Libby says
a good 30 minutes in the wild outdoor gives me enough rest for my day. it would feel like I have done all what i needed to get done for that day. i find it so relaxing to do some easy peasy gardening like watering, trimming trees, cut stems, i can see the benefits in such a way of using time doing “nothing” just only what you love. so worth it.
Sean says
Helene, while your points are valid, rest is a necessity for everyone…you know what, nevermind, rather than writing a long comment, I’m going to put the phone down and rest.
Blessings,
Sean
Moonyeen Lucero says
It’s certainly spot on and I’m not going to waste my time trying to explain to you why. Your negativity alone was already exhausting. Good read for someone like me who needs rest badly, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Mindi says
It sounds like you are enmeshed in a co-dependent relationship because you are parenting as if you are single. He can watch all the kids for three hours one night a week so you can nap or go to the library or do coffee with a friend. If he refuses, why not trade parenting responsibilities with a girl friend who also has children so that you get a break at least every other week. Martyrs glorify their work, and avoid rest because they know better than everyone else. Eventually they burn out. Don’t do that.
Rick paul says
Actually some of ‘us’ martyers may enjoy work. The nice pay is a by product not a means to an end.
Atito says
I took a gap year when my 13 year employment was terminated following restructuring and thankfully I got a severance package. Many couldn’t understand the concept of taking 1 year off from work and urged me to search for another job immediately. I was tempted to though I felt completely burned, but am glad I didn’t. The time off the career rat race has given much needed perspective on life and the many important things I neglected and sacrificed at the altar of money and career. I will be returning to school next year to study biblical counselling in order to help others struggling as I was.
Buzz says
It begins by realizing that our culture largely values shallow, meaningless things. Kids today live mostly indoors, and know little about nature. We live in a world of massive energy consumption, where everything is wrapped in plastic, and many Americans don’t even know where they are on the face of the earth. We follow those with the loudest voices and the least to say, as opposed to those who listen, learn, and have truth to share. We obliterate natural beauty and replace it with gaudy garbage, and we are rapidly killing our one and only home.
We need more rest, and a lot more reflection on the awesomeness of being.
“The most beautiful and most profound emotion we can experience is the sensation of the mystical. It is the source of all true science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead.”
–Albert Einstein
Burned out says
Thank you for writing this. I’m about to take 5 days to unplug and sleep and rest. I am physically, emotionally and mentally drained. I lack compassion, empathy, any appropriate social filters and sometimes even common sense. Yet, people look at me like I have 8 heads and can’t believe they can’t contact me. I finally said the only one I want to connect with is ME!