There are two types of pursuits in life: those that can be completed and those that will never be finished.
For example, my desire to be a good parent will likely, never be completed. I will contine to grow and improve in this area over the course of my life as the seasons change. Likewise, my desire to be a faithful spouse, a good friend, and a contributing member of society around me.
On the other hand, there are some accomplishments fully completed. I graduated college. I ran a marathon. I wrote a book. I started a business. These desires represent completed goals.
This is a simple reality, but there is irreplaceable joy and opportunity for those who can accurately distinguish between the two. When we continue to pour resources into completed projects, we miss opportunity to direct those resources towards goals that continue.
Unfortunately, in a society built on constant and ever-increasing consumerism, there are countless voices arguing for us to confuse the two.
Consider this, when was the last time you looked at the clothes in your closet and thought, “Yup, that’s enough. I have accumulated enough. I’m done with this pursuit. It is complete.”
Perhaps never, right? This is because the world has told us we will never be finished buying clothes. Even if you have enough in your closet to last you the next 12 months, marketers will continue to convince you that you are not done—that the pursuit of fashionable fabric must continue.
For this reason, we rarely see the pursuit of physical possessions as a desire that can be completed or fully finished. Even if we have accumulated enough, there is still a “better” that we should continue to invest resources in pursuing.
So we look at our existing furniture and think how nice it would be to upgrade this chair or that rug. We desire a larger home, a newer car, a bigger paycheck, a stainless steel fridge, or granite countertop. No matter what we already possess, we seem to always desire more.
Buying things has become a pursuit with no finish line. (tweet that)
But take a look around. Is it possible there’s enough clothing already in your closet? Is there enough furniture already in your house? Is your home sufficient for you and your family? Do your kitchen appliances already meet your needs? Is your car sufficient to get you from Point A to Point B?
And if you already own enough clothing, furniture, or housing, maybe you can begin to see that pursuit as completed.
The next time you have a desire to buy something you don’t need, say to yourself, “Nope. I’m done buying clothes. I already have enough. I have met this desire and I am moving on to something else.”
There is a profound joy and opportunity that accompanies this realization because it allows us to redirect our finite resources towards more important pursuits—those that may never be fully completed.
If I spend less money and time and energy pursuing new clothes, expensive furniture, and more square footage, I have more money and time and energy to spend on being a good father, a faithful husband, and a contributing member of society.
And isn’t that the goal? To excel at the things in life that matter most and to remove those that don’t?
Al says
Those who buy what they do not need; steal from themselves.
TresBohemes says
There is nothing more satisfying than completion.
It’s true. Thank you for this post reminder.
Susie says
Just read Freedom of Simplicity by Richard J Foster and he says something similar on page 149. Most people have no need for more clothes. They buy more not because they need clothes, but because they want to keep up with the fashions. Buy only what you need. Wear your clothes until they are worn out.
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Primal Prosperity says
Like Tyson commented, many of our goals tend to be to impress others.
I teach workshops where I talk about Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, and many times we get stuck in the bottom rungs, particularly the ‘accolades/esteem’ section. To move to self actualization, we need to let go of setting goals to impress others and just focus on what makes us truly happy.
Usually goals that can be “counted” and measured have fleeting fulfillment, but those that take a lifetime of working towards are the most rewarding.
Zig Ziglar says “Don’t count the things you do, do the things that count.”
I have my own version of goal setting that I use in my workshops, called D.U.M.B. goals:
Daring ~ Be authentic. Embrace Vulnerability.
Uncomfortable ~ We learn more from difficulty than comfort.
Magnetic ~ Leverage the Laws of Attraction and be captivated by your goals.
Balanced ~ All systems must stay balanced to be sustainable. .
Sarah Rose says
Spot on Josh! It’s incredible to read this and realise I hadn’t mentally created this categories, choosing to do so consciously is potentially powerful. You’ve written this so eloquently and clearly that I can’t believe I didn’t recognise this earlier. Thank you!
Jacqueline says
Went shopping with my sister today and to be honest quite boring, i am interested in things, doubt i will never not be, but i just find so much stuff makes me feel sick inside, pointless and useless, i am at the stage where i only buy what i need, and buy things when i have thought about them, i would rather have far less and love the few things i have,
still room for treats etc and new clothes but i just dont, let them rule me or control me no more
family and friends more important than working more to earn more to buy more, treadmill existance
excellent post thanks josh
love Jacqueline
Emily says
Beautifully written.