“Don’t get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.”
The speed of our world is increasing.
Technology and communication continue to improve. Information moves faster. And social media rewards those who never turn it off.
Expectations, demands, and accessibility continue to expand, but the number of hours in a week do not. As a result, our lives get busier and busier.
This approach to life rarely benefits us in the long-run because a busy life is an unreflective life. In fact, often times, we are so busy scurrying from one thing to another we don’t even have the space to realize our schedules have become overwhelmed. We don’t recognize how our overcommitted lives are harming us.
Even worse, we are unable to identify the hidden mistruths in our heart that are contributing to the problem. Consider these:
9 Hidden Lies that Keep Our Schedules Overwhelmed
1. Accolades will bring fulfillment. The thinking goes like this: The busier we are, the more we can accomplish and the more respect we can earn. And the more respect and accolades we receive, the more we can surely prove our worth and value to others. Unfortunately, if you are trying to find fulfillment in someone else’s opinion of you, you will never find it. You will always be left searching (and working) for more.
2. Money will bring happiness. We often get caught up in needless busyness because of our desire to earn and secure more money. Ever notice how often we are offered money (or the chance to win money) for our time? While it is important to work hard and provide for the needs of your family, it is foolish to think money is the quickest shortcut to better living.
3. I don’t have a choice. Many of us live over-busy lives because of the expectations and demands of others. In these cases, it is important to remember you always have a choice. Sure, there are seasons of life that require more of you and your time than others, but seasons always change. If yours hasn’t changed recently, you may need to revisit who is making the decisions in your life and where you can regain some of your control.
4. I’m more productive if I’m busy. Maybe you can be more productive for a short while, but human beings are not designed to work relentlessly without periods of rest. Countless studies confirm the importance of rest for productivity. Eventually, a lifestyle of busyness will detract from our productivity. And more importantly, your health and well-being. There are no exceptions.
5. I am needed. Pride is defined as holding an excessively high opinion of oneself or one’s importance. And it leads to overwhelmed schedules because of the foolish thinking that follows it: “Nobody else can do what I do.” This pride affects the way we view our business, our work, our family, and our personal relationships. Left unchecked, it leads to a busy life and in the end, a fall.
6. Everything is important. Our world has a tendency to make everything appear urgent, important, and beneficial to our lives. As the speed of information increases, our minds are seemingly less equipped to filter all the information and opportunities. But the most productive among us realize nobody can accomplish everything. They are relentless in their understanding of mission and the reality that very few things are truly important. And they never sacrifice the important for the trivial.
7. I need to be busy to keep up with everyone else. It may seem, at times, the only way to get ahead in life is to outwork everyone else. But just because everyone else appears busy does not mean they are busy about the right things. Nor does it mean they are finding joy in their pursuits. Frank Clark perhaps said it best, “Modern man is frantically trying to earn enough to buy things he’s too busy to enjoy.”
8. Busy makes me look more important. Busy, in and of itself, is not a badge of honor. In fact, being busy doing the wrong things is actually quite unattractive. Just remember, in a society rushing to keep up with everyone else, those who find peace, contentment, and rest are the ones admired…and envied.
9. Quietness is laziness. Often times, people avoid dealing with life’s deeper issues by packing their schedule tight. Someone who is discontent with their life’s choices can escape the difficult work of addressing them by masking them with busyness. Quietness is not laziness. Quietness is hard, but always worth the effort.
Many of the lies we have been told since birth crowd out the things in life that matter most. Instead of enjoying the benefit of calm, intentional living, we hurry from one needless triviality to another.
Don’t ever get so busy chasing the wrong things that you miss enjoying the right things. (tweet that)
Linda Faye Deneau says
Hi, Joshua!
This article is thought provoking and I always appreciate your suggestions about how we may choose to improve our lives. Ultimately, as we do, we improve the lives of those we love as well.
I wondered if the Title of #9 is correct or if it should read: “Quietness is not laziness”.
I appreciate all that you do for us, your readers, and want you to know that your Uncluttered Course made a huge difference in how I live my life now. My entire family and friends benefitted and now they appreciate you too!
I will always be supportive of your efforts to help improve lives.
Thank you, Joshua Becker,
LadyLinda88
joshua becker says
Well, the list is “lies that we believe” that lead to a busy schedule. I do not believe that quietness is laziness. But when we believe the lie as listed “Quietness is laziness,” it leads to an overwhelmed schedule. So I think I got it correct in the article.
Maria Pinto says
I am content to just “be” today, sitting here with my kitten on my lap,
listening to the rain outside, knowing I don’t have to go anywhere today.
Breed7, if you are reading this, I wish you well. I know, living with a
Musician/Artist until he passed away a few years ago. It was not an easy life, but fulfilling in a lot of ways.
I embraced Simple Living/ Minimalism many years ago as I have never tried to keep up with anyone. Much of what we had over the years was second hand & we enjoyed it. Simplicity & Minimalism is not elitist in any way that I know. It is living with respect for Mother Earth, to live with a lighter footprint, sustainably. That brings joy to my heart & many others too.
Maria Pinto says
I am content to just “be” today, sitting here with my kitten on my lap,
listening to the rain outside, knowing I don’t have to go anywhere today.
Breed7, if you are reading this, I wish you well. I know, living with a
Musician/Artist until he passed away a few years ago. It was not an easy life, but fulfilling in a lot of ways.
I embraced Simple Living/ Minimalism many years ago as I have never tried to keep up with anyone. Much of what we had over the years was second hand & we enjoyed it. Simplicity & Minimalism is not elitist in any way that I know. It is living with respect for Mother Earth, to live with a lighter footprint, sustainably. That brings joy to my heart & many others too.