May 28, 2008 – It all started harmless enough on a spring Saturday morning as my 5-year old son and I went to clean the garage. The neighbors happened to be outside planting gardens, watering flowers, and tending to the outside of their two-level home.
Nearly three hours later, we were still working on the garage and the neighbors were still outside working on their home. My neighbor turned to me and said sarcastically, “Ahh, the joys of home ownership.” I responded by saying, “The more stuff you own, the more your stuff owns you.” Her next sentence struck a chord with my soul. Her response was, “That’s why my daughter is a minimalist. She keeps telling me that I don’t need all this stuff!”
“A minimalist?” I thought. “How attractive, how freeing – I want that in my life.”
Call me uneducated, naive, whatever you want – but I had never heard the term before. Yet, it seemed to be the one word that defined my deepest desires. I went inside to tell my wife about the conversation and her response was the same as mine, “That’s what I want too.”
And thus, the journey begins. The journey of becoming a minimalist.
The blog will serve two purposes. 1). Keeping a journal of our personal journey as this family of four (33, 29, 5, 2) becomes minimalist. And 2). A proof if this typical family can make it real in their life, so can you.
Christian Housewife says
Your site is so inspiring! As a family of 6 (soon to be 7) I’m finding that STUFF has taken over our home. More and more I find the desire growing to purge ourselves of the unnecessary bondage to things that are meaningless and only weigh us down. I look forward to delving into your posts to find advice on how I can go forward with this. Thanks for sharing your journey with us. :)
di says
With kids, ask them if they’d be satisfied with one or two dozen toys. Setting limits without complete deprivation is a good place to start.
Zaznoba says
I really identify with this post! Last weekend I was at my mother’s for Mother’s Day and I spent half the day inside in her basement organizing and going through all my stuff instead of spending time with my family enjoying the nice spring weather and bbq. I was really frustrated by the end of the day and was in a bad mood for the rest of it. What a day! :-( I’m making the same pledge you are to become more minimalist! Good luck on your journey and thanks for the great blog to help those of us getting started!
Sooz says
We r getting on this track to at 46, 42 and 3 years old. Want to teach our son not to have his “stuff own him!” ThankU!
Katie @ Imperfect People says
How it all began! I love it. You are inspiring me!
RB says
This is what I’m thinking about ….. $55 k Log Cabin Kit in the woods .
http://off-gridliving.blogspot.com/2010/01/log-cabin-kit-1248-sq-ft-55800.html
di says
Check out the tiny house forums.
Rod says
We are doing the same thing as we prepare to live off the grid. I’ll document our story on my blog http://www.Offgrid-Living.com – where I’ll add a link to your book “Simplify”
Craig says
Every few months this post generates a new comment, intriguing.
I’m on the slow path to becoming a minimalist. My wife doesn’t keep a lot of junk around, but I dunno if she’s really ready to take the same path I am. My son (9) is showing great signs of not being too materialistic, we clean his room out every few months and he’s really good about getting rid of stuff he’s done with. My daughter on the other hand is a packrat to the extreme. We have to go in her room and throw stuff away when she’s at school just to maintain some floor space.
My biggest challenge on the path to minimalism is getting rid of all the collections I accumulated my whole life. There’s something that’s keeping me from packing the car full of this stuff sitting in the attic and driving to Goodwill….it’s the desire to get “some” money in return for selling this stuff on eBay. Do I go ahead and list it? nope. So that’s where I’m stuck.
I enjoy the blog, keep it up!
di says
As you age, you may be more likely to sell it, because it gradually becomes more difficult to take care of everything in the same that you did when you were younger.
di says
I throw out extras from everyone else’s room as well. They’ve never missed a single thing and always seem happier with fewer choices.
di says
I found that if others lived beyond their means, that meant that I had to go without.
Trish says
I’m not sure how minimalist it is that I just read through your entire blog backwards, but I have greatly enjoyed reading your story.
I am a minimalist-at-heart living with a self-confirmed packrat, but a recent weekend spent going through the house talking about what we would like each room to be and actually starting to move things around and get some stuff out of the house has given me hope for the future!
di says
Me, too. My room is simple and elegant. Everyone else’s room is cluttered and claustrophobic.
Bradley Peatling says
I can understand about living with a pack rat\Hoarder…. As u may know about the 80 -20…..mum is the hoarder and dad has given up. They have a big house and they live in about 20% of the house and the rest of the 80% is full of stuff that one day i will have to arrange to give away or throw out… I live in a very small room and i picked up the book the more of less only in the last 2months and i have realized that i am a minimalist and just did not know the term…. I have been living with my parents due to a number of other reason`s for the last 12months but i can’t stand it anymore and i am sick of my mum putting so much effort into things that do not matter and i feel sick to my stomach when i look around and see so many things every were in the house. Jesus has provided For me a new place to live and i can’t wait to move in to a real home with a friend and her beautiful family…. I wood totally recommend getting out from that home u live in if u can ….
Roger says
For some time now I have been studying and practicing lean (as in lean manufacturing), and began to see other places where lean can be practiced, like home for example. From there, I’ve recently discovered minimalism, or simple living. We are now in the process of selling our house that is way too big for what we need and moving into something more manageable. With this we are moving closer to work and with a smaller space to take care of. Not only does it support how we can make things simpler (without a bunch of stuff) we can also reduce our costs and become completely debt-free. We’re on our way!
di says
Less stuff, less stress.
tony says
How exciting for you and your family sharing the same vision. I too have recently become a minimalist. Unfortunately, my exwife did not feel the same. There were other reasons to our divorce, but this was one of them. We have a 5 year old son who I am trying to teach the minimalist lifestyle. A lot of which gets deconstructed by my wife’s cluttered lifestyle. I only hope that my son will choose the lifestyle that fits him when he is older. I look forward to reading more of your journey. Reading yours and other similar ones, is like having a support group to help us navigate in this society of consumerism. I think if we all practice minimalism our economy would not be in the state that’s it’s in.
Peace.
Tony
di says
I raised my 2 girls in a minimalist environment. One felt deprived and now lives beyond her means. The other continued with minimalism.
di says
The Earth and climate may recover as well.