“You have not lived until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.” — John Bunyan
There are very few people who don’t like the idea of generosity. We are indeed a species that loves to help others and confront needs when we see them. Unfortunately, there are also very few people who are content with the level of generosity in their lives. Most people I know wish they were able to give more. And while there are a number of reasons that this may be the case… sometimes the best solution may be the simplest.
To that end, there are a number of simple steps that we can take to make generosity more intentional in our lives. If you have never given away any money or time, this would be a great way to get started (no matter what your current economic situation is). On the other hand, if you are just hoping to raise the level of generosity in your life, you will also find some of these simple steps to be relevant and helpful.
10 Simple Ways to Become a More Generous Person
1. Consider the benefits of generosity. Generous people report being happier, healthier, and more satisfied with life than those who don’t give. Generosity produces within us a sense that we are capable of making a difference in the world, that we are actively addressing the needs of those around us, and that we are shaping our community into a healthier one. While generosity is typically seen as the opposite of self-serving, counting the personal benefits is indeed one of the most important steps that we can take in getting started.
2. Embrace gratitude. Make a list of the things in your life for which you are grateful. Your list doesn’t have to be long. It won’t take much time. Heck, it doesn’t even have to be a physical list (in your head will be completely sufficient). Sometimes, the most important step you can take to become more generous is to spend more time thinking about what you already possess and less time thinking about what you don’t. Once you start intentionally thinking that way, you may be surprised just how good you already have it… and become more apt to share your life with others.
3. Start really small. If you’ve never given away money, start by giving away $1. If you are embarrassed to give just $1, don’t be. You’ve got nothing to worry about: there are plenty of charities online that allow you to give with your credit card and you’ll never cross paths with the people who record your $1 donation. Of course, the point of this exercise is not to report a $1 tax deduction on your year-end tax return. The point is to get started. If you’ll feel more comfortable giving $5, $10, or $20, start there. But no matter what dollar amount you choose, jump right in with something small. You can afford it… and that little push can help build momentum in your life towards generosity.
4. Give first. When you receive your next paycheck, make your first expense an act of giving. Often times, we wait to see how much we have left over before we determine how much we can give away. The problem is that most of the time after we start spending, there is nothing left over. The habit of spending all of it is too deeply ingrained in our lives. To counteract that cycle, give first. Every payday, write a check for $10 to your local homeless shelter. You just may be surprised how you won’t even miss it.
5. Divert one specific expense. For a set period of time (try 29 days), divert one specific expense to a charity of your choosing. You may choose to bring a lunch to work, ride your bike to work once/week, or give up Starbucks on Mondays (wait, make that Thursday). Calculate the money you’ll save and then redirect it to a specific charity/cause. Whatever you choose, I recommend picking something that would be fun to give up – something unique that you’ll remember. And setting a specific period of time for the experiment should make it completely achievable. Courtney Carver gave away an extra $225 in one month just giving up Starbucks.
6. Fund a cause based on your passions. There are countless charities/causes that need your support. And some of them are directly in-line with your most compelling passions. What are you most passionate about? Is it the environment, poverty, or religion? Maybe it’s world peace, child nutrition, or animal rights? What about education, civil rights, or clean water? Identify what passions already move you, find a committed organization around that cause, and then joyfully help them in their work. In my life, that means I support Essex CHIPS with both my finances and time. It is a local organization that empowers teenagers to make healthy choices. Since I’ve worked with students my entire life, this organization was just a natural extension of my existing passions. As a result, supporting them made perfect sense.
7. Find a person you believe in. If you find that you are more easily motivated and shaped by the people in your life rather than organizations/causes, use that tendency as motivation instead. Take careful notice of the people in your life that you most admire. What organizations/causes do they hold most dear? Who do they support? What makes them passionate about supporting it? And how can you get involved alongside them?
8. Spend time with people in need. One of the most effective antidotes for non-generosity is to make space in your life for those who actually need your help. After all, it is a very small step to go from knowing somebody in need to helping somebody in need. One of the easiest ways to accomplish this is to volunteer one meal at your local homeless shelter. Most homeless shelters readily accept volunteers and have systems in place to get you started. And rubbing shoulders with the poor just may change your impression of them forever.
9. Spend time with a generous person. One of the most life-changing conversations I’ve ever had about generosity occurred when I found the courage to start asking specific questions of the right person. I remember starting with, “Have you always been generous?” And immediately followed with more: “When did you become so generous? How did it start? How do you decide where your money goes? What advice would you give someone who wants to get started?” It was life-changing. And the other guy paid for the meal… go figure.
10. Live a more minimalist life. Intentionally decide to own less. Oh sure, living a minimalist life won’t automatically make you a more generous person, but it will provide the space necessary to make it possible. You’ll spend less money on things at the department store. You’ll have more time/energy to help others. And the intentionality that emerges in your life will help you discover the need for generosity. Minimalism has resulted in many positive changes in my life – becoming more generous has been one of the most important.
Generosity rarely happens by chance. Instead, it is an intentional decision that we make in our lives. But it does not need to be as difficult as many people think. Sometimes, starting with the simple steps is the best step that we can take.
What simple steps have you incorporated into your life to foster generosity?
Thomas Pietz says
We have been assertive savers all of our lives. At age 56 and 53 with children at (25, 23, 19 and 17), we have lightened up on saving so much for retirement (yes, we will really be fine, trust me). In 2023 , we have taken $1000 a month we were saving, in order to intentionally and/or spontaneously bless anyone who has need or vision. We have also been able to assist our children in their health issues which has provided much relief and hope for them in their tenuous seasons. It has be SO FREEING! Exhilarating! Certainly we tithed to our church, gave to several charities, Compassion Child, etc. but now we are free to give with no limit, no weight on our shoulders…why? Because we are content. We have enough. God has provided and will continue to do so. Let’s be outrageously generous!
Ciara Lenz says
After losing our daughter to a tragic accident, we received some monetary funds that we were able to do a memorial scholarship in her honor. In our grief, we have learned to live by being generous to the needs of others. We are joyful in doing this act. However, lately, my cousin has been undergoing medical treatment, and I need help. So we help. However, my family expected me to give more. I feel coerced; my family stopped talking to me after I stopped sharing. Am I wrong to limit my financial support to my cousin? I am torn.
Mary Ann Dewsnap-Flignor RN says
If your generosity is authentic then you should never doubt The Who When and Where of it. Never doubt yourself.
Gloria Dzanjalimodzi says
I just read something that said, “Giving without considering your needs isn’t noble; it is reckless. You are not bottomless. Take care of yourself and care for others.” While the very last part may seem like the antithesis of generosity, I think it still is very important to ensure that our needs are also being met, because, if others depend on us and benefit when we are well, then we should keep ourselves well.
Enjoyed reading this.
I enjoy decluttering. I offered two friends a free hour(or three) a week for four weeks to meet specific goals- moving, clearing for a party. I got experience helping, they got practical progress.
I would start by saying thank you. This is really great, it has really changed my perspective in giving. I struggle to give , not that I don’t want to , I didn’t know that I could give little or big. Thank you so much for this
Really good article, it helped to find simple ways to be more generous.
Thank you so much!
Eli Richardson says
I’m glad you mentioned how by volunteering in your local homeless shelter and spending time with people in need, you could make a change in their lives. Lately, my sister and I have been thinking about ways to help our community. Near where we live, we often see homeless people, and we want to know how to help them. I think your article is going to help us achieve that. I appreciate you talking about ways to become a more generous person.
Beautiful article! Generosity is such a lovely trait to have. It makes sense to start small. Everything is just energy so it’s good to be generous because kindness and love stem from gratitude and generosity.
yay my favorite day you commented WELL DONE
I’ve recently considered donating to this just because of the humor, but it’s also very generous.