When was the last time you sat down and considered the role possessions play in your life? We live in a world that screams at us from every angle that more is better, that possessions equal success, and that happiness can be purchased at a store.
But if you’ve ever felt a disconnect between what culture says and what your heart feels, you’re not alone.
As we all seek to make the most of the one life we have to live, let’s ask ourselves challenging questions about the things we own. These questions can challenge our worldview and assumptions, and even shift our perspective and liberate us from the weight of consumerism.
Here are 15 questions to ponder, each with the power to forever change how you view the possessions in your life:
1. How much money have I spent on the things I own?
Reflect on the total cost of your possessions. Not just in terms of money, but also the time, energy, and opportunities sacrificed.
2. How much time have I wasted cleaning and organizing all my stuff?
Consider the hours spent maintaining your belongings—not just currently but added up over the course of your life. Could this time have been spent on activities that more enriched your life?
3. Is there a reason why I am not content with all that I own and continue to buy more?
Probe the deeper reasons behind your continual desire for more. Is it a search for happiness, acceptance, fulfillment, or something else? Why don’t you feel completely content with all that you have already?
4. Who will bear the responsibility of caring for all this when I’m gone?
Imagine the burden your possessions could become to others after you pass away. Is this the legacy you wish to leave?
5. What are some of the things I could have spent all this money on?
Dream about the experiences, education, freedom, or generosity that could have been realized with the resources you used to accumulate possessions.
6. Do my possessions reflect my values and what I consider most important in life?
Evaluate whether your belongings align with your core beliefs and life goals. Are they tools for your values or distractions from them?
7. What could I achieve if I weren’t weighed down by so much stuff?
Envision the goals and dreams that could be pursued if you were liberated from the excess.
8. How many people have found happiness owning far less than I do now?
Consider the countless lives filled with joy and fulfillment with far fewer possessions. What can their contentment teach us about our own pursuit of happiness?
9. Am I holding onto things out of fear or a need for security?
Challenge the notion that your security lies in material wealth. Could letting go actually bring greater peace and assurance as you open yourself to look elsewhere?
10. How would my daily routine improve with fewer possessions?
Picture a day with less to clean, less to organize, and less to worry about. What does this simplicity look like for you?
11. Do the possessions I own represent the life I want to live in the present and future?
Reflect on whether your possessions reflect your current aspirations and the path you wish to take moving forward. If they mostly echo the past, it may be time to realign your possessions with the life you’re actively choosing.
12. What would happen if I stopped trying to impress others with what I own?
Imagine a life where your worth isn’t tied to material symbols. How would this freedom change your relationships and self-perception?
13. Could I live in a smaller space if I owned less?
Envision the possibility and benefits of living in a smaller, more manageable space. How might downsizing your possessions open up new living arrangements and opportunities?
14. How do my possessions shape my identity and how others view me?
Consider the message your belongings send about who you are. Are they an accurate representation of your identity?
15. What still remains on my bucket list to accomplish?
Consider the aspirations and dreams you’ve yet to fulfill. Often, they’re not related to owning more but experiencing more. Reflect on how owning less could free up resources, time, and energy to achieve these lifelong dreams.
These questions aren’t meant to guilt or shame any of us into action.
Instead, they are designed only to prompt introspection and new thoughts. And hopefully inspire a more intentional approach to the things we own.
As we seek answers, we may discover that less isn’t just more; it’s the pathway to the freedom we’ve been searching for all along.
So, take your time with these questions. Let them sit with you. Each one, slowly and deliberately.
And as you ponder these questions, you might just find that the possessions you once thought were essential are the very things you can live—and live well—without.
Hi Betsy, Oh I understand your dilemma although my situation is different. My husband moved out and left so much workshop stuff, some of which I didn’t even now what it was. It was unbelievable how much. My boys took a few things – the big items. But the rest I gave away to two nice brothers who do renovation work. They were very grateful and it was such a relief to see it hauled away in one go. No pricing, no haggling, no scammers. For me, that peace of mind was priceless. I hope you work something out that takes the pressure off.
Not to sound like I’m being negative about my husband because he’s the finest person I know. He makes furniture and just about every piece in our home he’s made. My concern is that we’re not young anymore and if he passes away first how will I unload the table saw, drill presses and hundreds of other items. We don’t live in an honest world and I don’t know enough about selling everything on my own. I keep paring down all the other items so he doesn’t get stuck with that too just in case.
Ask your husband now, while he is still alive, who you should call if he passes before you. He should know someone who would treat you fairly. A friend of mine in a similar situation (a basement full of trains) knows who to call if her husband dies first.
Hi Betsy,
My dad passed away of cancer two years ago. He made furniture as well and we still have his pieces scattered throughout the family. He left instructions for us what to do about his tools. My brother got first choice, then my cousin, then two friends, and finally anything left when to our local Habitat for Humanity Restore. They came and picked up things at no charge to my mom. These are things they can use in building new houses and sell in their store to fund their mission. He didn’t want my mom to have to deal with selling things when so much other stress was happening. Maybe if no family or friends want the items, there is a local charity your husband would like his tools to go to. Now is the time to ask him and take a look around.
Good essay. Questions to ponder are always effective ways to communicate and get pet thinking. Thank you, Joshua.
I totally agree with you. However, I have a husband who likes to accumulate stuff which is driving me nuts. I’m trying to minimize & he’s maximizing. I can’t go down in the basement (his man cave) because I can’t stand all his stuff.
I’ll be happy moving to a smaller house but there won’t be room for his stuff.
He says he doesn’t care who’ll have to take care of what he leaves once he’s gone.
I understand your comment. I truly put forth effort to minimize. However, I still work and when I return, the space I completed the night before is filled again. He does seem to appreciate what I do. We have a bonus room above the garage that I can barely walk through.
Oh wow sounds like my story!