“Good habits make all the difference.” —Aristotle
It is wise for each of us, from time to time, to stop and evaluate our lives as we seek to make the most of them.
The start of a calendar year provides an opportunity to look back at the decisions that shaped our lives during the past year and gives us an extra push to make adjustments for the next one. Every new January represents a natural opportunity to evaluate the direction of our lives, adjust course if necessary, adopt new habits, or make healthy changes. Birthdays can often serve the same purpose.
Regardless of the time of year, self-reflection is important. Consider then, these 11 resolutions for a better you—proven by science. It is, after all, our habits that determine the course of our lives.
1. Exercise. Most of us recognize the benefits of physical exercise: healthy bodies, healthy minds, and healthy confidence. Some studies indicate exercise contributes to a positive body image even prior to any body weight or shape change—with as little as two weeks of regular exercise. And with increasing study centered around the effectiveness of minimalist workouts, each of us should be able to find the time to get started.
2. Less television. Those seeking intentionality realize the negative influence television has on their mind: it impacts our worldview, encourages consumerism, oversimplifies life, and results in less life satisfaction. Even more drastic, scientists are beginning to discover the habit of watching too-much television may be negatively impacting our life expectancy as well. Nobody is telling you to throw your television in the nearest dumpster, but deciding to cut back in the next year may be one of the best decisions you could ever make.
3. Go outside. According to recent studies published in the Journal of Environmental Psychology, simply spending time outside with nature contributes to increased energy, wards off feelings of exhaustion, and results in a heightened sense of well-being. Of course, simply walking from your front door to the car door doesn’t count. So make a point this coming year to find an excuse to be outside—you can always start with a simple walk around the block each evening.
4. Read fiction. Recently, researchers have begun studying the physical impact reading stories has on our brain. As you might expect, they are discovering reading results in heightened connectivity and brain activity—sometimes, even up to 5 days after the book has been completed. If you read fiction, you already know this to be true. If you don’t, this could be your year to start. You may enjoy beginning with The Hunger Games or Divergent.
5. Give. Numerous studies show charitable giving boosts happiness and reduces stress—especially when the generosity promotes positive social connection. If you don’t already, find a cause or person you believe in and offer them consistent monthly support. They will benefit. You will benefit. And the world will be a better place.
6. Serve. Volunteering provides great value for our lives and the lives of those we choose to enrich. One study from the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania, Harvard Business School, and the Yale School of Management found that when a person volunteers his or her time, they begin to feel like they have more time and are more efficient. Additionally, volunteers feel better about themselves, experience lower stress levels, and develop a deeper connection with others. The golden number appears to be 100 hours per year (2 hours/week).
7. Buy less stuff and more experiences. In studies presented at the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, researchers suggest that buying life experiences rather than material possessions leads to greater happiness for both the consumer and those around them. Decide today to spend less money this year on possessions and more money on meaningful, memorable experiences. You’ll be glad you did in more ways than one.
8. Display gratitude. Psychologists have scientifically proven that one of the greatest contributing factors to overall happiness in your life is how much gratitude you show. And it can be experienced with as little as three expressions each day (“Thank you for…”). Getting started is so easy and beneficial. It could be the easiest decision you make all year.
9. Practice smiling. In a fascinating study conducted at the Michigan State Business School, customer service professionals who fake a smile throughout the day worsen their mood. But people who smile as a result of cultivating positive thoughts improve their mood and withdraw less. Simply put, one easy way to improve your mood throughout the next year is to intentionally recall pleasant memories or think more positively about your current situation—and then smile because of it.
10. Stop and just play. Our world is becoming increasingly busy and the temptation to measure our worth by external factors continues to grow. As a result, taking time to slow down and just play is becoming increasingly rare. But play is fun and enjoyable. Play enriches the lives of children by exercising their mind and body. And it has the same positive effect on adults. So make an extra point to just slow down and play constructively with your friends or kids.
11. Determine to be happy. Two experimental studies published in The Journal of Positive Psychology this past year offer ground-breaking research on the cultivation of happiness. Based on the experiments, participants who listened to “happy” music and actively tried to feel happier reported the highest level of positive mood afterwards—more so than those who simply listened to the music. In other words, determining to be happy is a productive decision towards achieving it.
Adopting 11 new habits at one time is almost certainly too much to ask. But choose one or two specifically. And then, give it 29 days. You’ll be surprised how quickly they become habit.
Alessandro says
Thank you for your valuable posts that I always read from Italy where I live. I’m totally agree with n. 7
Joshua Becker says
Cool this article came up when I tested a search of “Joshua Becker University of Pennsylvania” — due to the text in #6. Oddly, I have considered doing similar research myself, because of all my time spent volunteering. And of course I absolutely LOVE the golden number (3.618033…) — the spiral was on the chuppah at my wedding!
Small world.
Christina says
Can you share references? Would love to check out the books or articles that showed this data. Thanks!
Jess says
Thanks for this list. I agreed to less television. My life is better and I am happier now. TV commercials and crappy soap operas are such a waste of time, and even news are not worth watching.
I will consider reading Divergent. I enjoyed reading The Hunger Games trilogy last year.
Happy New Year!
Cynthia says
hi, I found your article to be refreshing as well as wise. I enjoyed it so much I mentioned it on my blog along with some of my responses to your ideas. I hope you do not mind my doing that.
You have some great ideas which were all things that I’d recognized as being beneficial but which could use some of my attention once more. Sometimes we have to mindfully put in to practice things which we know to be good, but which can get lost in the hassles of life or merely from our own depression. Here the “act as if” rule would definitely apply and would most likely be effective in raising our spirits.
John Guidone says
Good list but left out prayer…unless it isimplied/ included in the original reflection process.
Gary Wetherhold says
#12 – Read and study the Bible
John says
Great List!! Thanks for putting it together.
Becki says
From Elf: Smiling’s my favorite!
Robin Finlay says
These are excellent principles to live by. Children need to be actively encouraged to embrace them from the earliest age possible. Less time on the couch, playing with others, solving their own problems and away from our ever present gaze.
DK says
Great article. Posted on FB and posted on the fridge. Thanks!
Theresa caples says
I’m 64, Ive decluttered several times over the years, it felt great. Here I am on New Years Eve, looking at full closets, cabinets, drawers again, weighed down with stuff. It gets harder to do the physical cleaning, packing up, so I may hire some help. I really understood what someone said about sorting through relatives things and seeing all the stuff, things that I guess we hold to memories or some promise. We keep a few things we really cherish or need, then leave the rest. This blog really helped me think.
But I too have regrets, maybe just our age, all the things,memories ,
Time, money wasted..more years behind us than before us. It served a purpose at the time I guess..now, no longer..have to move forward, just remorseful, like you younger people, I didn’t maintain the decluttering, and fell into it again.