Every Sunday morning, I drive by a park. It’s on the left-hand side of the street with a basketball court, play structure, and large soccer field clearly visible.
During the week, in afternoons and evenings, the park is full of excitement. Parents sit and talk, children play, teenagers ride skateboards, grown men show up to play basketball.
But early on a Sunday morning, the park tells a different story. It is quiet and completely empty—except for one person who, without fail, works out in the field every weekend.
For as long as I can remember, every Sunday when I drive by that park, I see a young man (high school age) exercising in that park, running sprints and working on his football skills with a private coach. Some weeks, I find him running 40-yard sprints while his trainer tracks his time with a stop watch. Other weeks, I find him high-stepping through tires, weaving through cones, or back-peddling quickly to improve his foot speed.
By the time I drive by, he is clearly exhausted. Often times I have seen him complete a drill and walk slowly back to the starting line. He will put his hands on his knees and take a deep breath—the physical pain obvious even from my vantage point. And then, with a heavy sigh, he will put his fingers on the ground, arch his back, wait for the whistle, and push himself again.
I know nothing of this young man. I don’t know his name, his exact age, or where he lives. I only know that he inspires me.
He reminds me that a goal without action is not really a goal at all.
He reminds there is a big difference between saying you want something, and actually working to make it happen.
My son is in 7th grade and loves playing sports. Many of his friends do as well. In fact, they love sports so much that when I ask them what they want to be when they grow up, most will say, “I want to be a professional athlete.” Their response doesn’t surprise me. When I was younger, I said the same thing.
It is a common dream that is tough to outgrow. No doubt, even in high schools all over this country, the dream of becoming a professional athlete remains.
In my mind, I imagine this young man from the park plays on a football team at one of our local high schools. His team is full of other high school students. Many of which would tell you they have a goal: to one day become a professional football player.
There are countless boys who claim they want to play in the NFL… but there is only one I see up early on Sunday morning running sprints until his legs hurt. There is only one working his tail off to make it a reality. And I am inspired because that is the dedication required to become a professional football player. I won’t be surprised if he makes one day.
The whole scene reminds me of a conversation I witnessed shortly after graduating college. A mentor of mine was interacting with a gentleman older than me when the man made this statement, “I want to buy a Corvette.”
My mentor responded to his desire quite frankly, “No you don’t.”
“What do you mean? Of course I do. I’d like to own a Corvette.”
My mentor responded with words I have never forgotten, “No, you don’t really want to buy a Corvette. You see, if you really wanted to buy a Corvette, you could buy a Corvette. You could sell your home and maybe also your business. Then, you would have enough money to buy a Corvette. You say you want to own a Corvette… but if you really wanted to buy a Corvette, you’d be changing your life to do exactly that.”
I learned a valuable lesson that day from my mentor, “Saying you want something is one thing, but actually doing something about it is very different.” We prove what we desire most by our actions, not by our words.
We see this and experience it all the time.
We want to get out of debt, but continue to spend money on unneeded things. We want to get in shape, but never make the changes in our diet or exercise habits to accomplish that. We want to start saving for retirement, but never pursue the answers we need to get started. We desire to start a business or change jobs, but continue to spend our evenings and weekends watching television.
Or how about this one? We desire to live in a clutter-free home, but continue finding reasons why we need to keep all the stuff around us.
In each case, what we say we want is different from what we actually pursue.
Again, saying you want something is one thing, doing something about it is very different. We prove what we desire most by our actions, not by our words.
So let me ask you: What is it you want most? What life change do you desire?
Then, ask yourself this follow-up question: Are you taking the steps necessary to accomplish that goal? Or, are you settling for something else instead?
After all, a goal without a plan is just wishful thinking.
Tennille says
Waking up to read this post, just said I wanted to start running.. Off I go. Thanks for the motivation!
Tennille, Rossland BC
Adriana @ Moving the Cairn says
I’ve been thinking a great deal about this, too, and your specific example resonated with me. I run ultramarathons, and it’s not uncommon for aspirational running acquaintances to focus on the end result (finishing the race and posting about it on social media) instead of how to get there (hours and hours of solitary trail runs, alongside time spent in the gym and eating nutritious food). I’m not in a position to judge individuals’ motivations, as those vary, but I think it’s important to remind people of the action, effort, and self-reflection that’s required in achieving a goal. The journey can be tough, especially if it’s contrary to what those around you are doing (which we experienced in our transition to minimalism), but making sure your actions align with your intentions is the smoothest path to success. Thanks for great food for thought, as always.
Tracy says
An encouraging kick in the pants for me! Thanks! Also pre-ordered your book. Looking forward to that & the course. :)
Nienke says
Love this post! A bit confronting, but at times that’s exactly what we need… Thanks for the motivation!
I wanted to pre-order the Kindle version, but since I live in the Netherlands, Amazon won’t let me order on Amazon.com. Does the free entry to the course work when you order on a local site?
Monica says
Thank you for this article! So many great thoughts. I read it to my children this morning.
Jennifer @ Path to Simple says
This is a great reminder! If we are not willing to devote the time, energy, and commitment to something, maybe we need to question if it is really that important to us. And, if it is important, maybe we need to reevaluate all the other things getting in our way. I like to call these the “important” and “meaningful”…they reveal what is really in our hearts. Only these should take priority in our lives.
Inty says
Hi Joshua,
I have pre-ordered the book but from Amazon’s UK site (Amazon.co.uk). I’d love to do the course.
Thanks
Andrea says
Thats what im talking about. Say it as it is!
Diane says
Excellent! I have been working hard to reduce my debt for the past several years. Just this morning I thought about going out to spend some money and then I did a rethink about how not spending would benefit me so much more. I stopped myself and instead am going to the library for a book to read and baking at home instead of buying a treat for myself.
Thanks for the inspiration. Every penny counts when you are trying to reduce debt.
Kathy says
Excellent ideas….and everyone needs at least one day of rest.
Judy says
Great post, Joshua! So very true and inspiring! :)