Note: This is a guest post from Courtney Carver of Be More With Less.
Before I simplified my closet, it was a bigger source of stress than I knew.
It wasn’t just the sheer volume of clothing stuffed into a small space, but all the things the clothes represented. Bad purchase decisions stared me down every morning, reminding me of my debt and discontent. There were the clothes that didn’t fit me anymore (my body or my lifestyle) reminding me I didn’t really know who I was, or what I wanted.
Then there were the items I purchased to feel a certain way or to be perceived a different way. It took me awhile to realize it, and even longer to admit it, but I had countless negative emotions tied up in my closet. Facing them every morning wasn’t a positive way to start the day.
If you can relate to my stressful closet scenario, or you are overwhelmed with closet chaos for other reasons, consider this 3 step process to end closet chaos.
1. Discover the true cost.
Remove everything (and I mean all the things) from your closet. Put everything on your bed. Add all clothing, accessories, jewelry, and shoes from other locations of your home too. All of it.
If it’s on your bed, you’ll have incentive to end closet chaos by bedtime.
Next, take a look at what you’ve amassed over the past few years or decades. It helps to see it all in one place. If seeing all of your stuff like this is a complete shock, you’re welcome to move on to step number two.
But if you need more shock value, go a little deeper and try this …
Put a price on each item. Make a list of each item and the actual price you paid for it. If you can’t remember what you spent, estimate. Add up the cost of each item until you have a grand total. Next, estimate your hourly take home pay and divide the total cost of your closet collection with your hourly take home pay.
For example: If you have $2500 worth of items in your closet and you take home $10.00 an hour, divide 2500 by 10 and you’ll find out you worked 250 hours to buy the clothes and other items sitting on your bed. That’s a little more than six 40-hour work weeks. It took a month and a half to earn the items on your bed and that doesn’t count the hours and weekends lost at the mall or online shopping for everything.
Using the example above, ask yourself what you would do if someone handed you $2500 right now. Would you buy all the stuff back or make different decisions with your money? What if you could trade those 250 hours of time for something other than the stuff from your closet? Would you spend the next 6 weeks working to buy back all the stuff, or would you spend the time differently?
Those answers will help you understand the true cost of what you’ve purchased, and the lesson will stick with you when you consider future purchases. At least it did for me.
2. Put your favorite pieces back in the closet.
Choose the items you wear most frequently and fit you the best and put them back in your closet. Leave the clothes you don’t like and aren’t sure about on the bed. Take a picture of your simplified closet. Each morning when you open your closet, think about how it feels to see more space than stuff. Celebrate the idea that you get to wear your favorite things every day.
3. Box up the rest for a few months.
Take the left over items on your bed and box them up. Put them out of sight. Instead of giving them all away and worrying about not having enough, put a little space and time between you and the excess. See how it feels. Ask yourself if you miss anything. Do you feel lighter? Happier? Less stressed? After 60-90 days, if you haven’t missed anything you boxed up, give it away. Otherwise, revisit the stuff you packed away and make a decision. Let it go, bring it back, or take another 30 days to decide.
There isn’t a right or wrong decision here. The distance you put between you and your stuff will help you decide based on actual wants and needs instead of emotional connection.
For a deeper dive into understanding what enough means to you, consider minimalist fashion challenge Project 333. Dress with 33 items or less for 3 months. You can find the rules here.
Once you end closet chaos, your mornings open up, you spend less, and you will begin to find confidence in who you are instead of what you wear. You can apply this 3-step process to any room in your home, or collection of items you think may be excessive.
Instead of using this process to feel guilty, or upset about what you’ve spent, or how much time you’ve invested in working for things you might not even want now, smile. With these 3 steps, you’ve redefined your purchase process, eliminated stress, and reminded yourself you can choose to own less stuff, spend less money, and reclaim the time and energy you previously devoted to stuff.
Smile, because now you can start really living.
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Courtney Carver will help you find your way back to love at Be More With Less. You can find her on Facebook too.
Wee One says
This is a timely article for me. Recently retired and having downsized to an area where yoga and hiking clothing are the usual dress code, I needed to do something about my small closets, work clothing, and vintage clothing collection. But I didn’t do anything but complain about lack of storage until the terrible night when my husband asked me if I had any unusual bug bites…yikes! Bed bugs! Now that will clean your closets! However, it’s forced me (gladly!) to shrink my wardrobe. I only kept three outfits for lady’s lunches or dinners out, and the rest I call my lounge clothes, which can be used for yoga, shopping, or sleeping. I plan to replenish as needed and discard or donate as things are replaced. It’s been a nightmare, but we are bug free and laundry is so much easier. Great blog, btw. Thank you!
Laurie J. says
Great article — thank you Courtney!
Thea Dunlap says
Wow these are good tips. My closet is always in chaos and after reading this article, it’s time that I find time to re-organize it.
Brenda says
Thank you Courtney!! ( and just a funny aside– when I type “thank you” onto my phone, the next word it suggests is Courtney! That’s how often I seem to be typing those words! Haha)
Krista O'Reilly-Davi-Digui says
I am happier now that I live with clothing rules. These include buying only black and grey clothing (rare exceptions but never for bottoms), and having set numbers of items for each type of clothing (tops, bottoms, etc). Sigh of relief.
J H says
As I retired from the military, then retired from civilian work, then retired even from my part time job(s) I found that more and more I purchased black and gray almost exclusively. It just trended that way and it makes it so much easier to at least ‘match’ while wearing my yoga pants outfits. Another trick I learned is to use outerwear vests. My favorite ones are fleece but they come in all shapes, styles, and fabrics. Stuck with black and gray in them also and bought them in men’s department for the roominess and less restricted cut. This also had the bonus of all but eliminating bulky outerwear – I mean how often do you need that puffy parka, really? Mostly going from inside to the car or the car to inside. Unless you are a ski instructor or something. But I do have a collection of funky (often nice vintage) brooches to dress them up when needed. :-)
Uros says
Many people quit when they are about to succeed. Normally they get 75% into a project and quit. Often times the rough patches along the road become tougher around that mark. So, if your mindset is not in the right place, then you will not be able to surpass the roadblocks and break free of the shackles in your life.
Judy says
That’s a tough one. I also have those pieces. Too formal for work…but I keep them “just in case”. BUT—I’m finding that those dresses for example that looked great a few years ago, no longer do justice. Maybe handle each piece and ask yourself if you’d purchase that today if you saw it on a rack. If the answer is no…then donate it.
Pam says
I am a big fan, Courtney!
I have really worked to develop a uniform that works for my everyday lifestyle. I am retired, live on the coast where the temperature is year-round 60+\-degrees. My life is simple and I have pared my everyday clothes down to a uniform: long sleeved Lands End cotton T, Dressbarn skinny stretch pants. J Crew chambray as an over shirt when needed. Sperrys, Chaco sandals or adidas gore tex trail hikers for the beach. I can hike, bike and go into town with the addition of a scarf or necklace. Soooo Easy. I entertain once or twice a month, go to dinner a few times a month, travel to visit kids in CO and NH once or twice a year.
My problem is that I haven’t pared down the dressier part of my wardrobe. I simply can’t decide how many or which dressier items to keep and it’s driving me crazy. I have lots of dressier draped tops, classic dresses, cashmere sweaters (too hot for here), Blazers, drapey cardigans, silk blouses, a maxi dress…(no one wears them here), well, you get the picture…too much dressier stuff. I occasionally need a funeral or graduation worthy outfit, but in general, I need a few strategic dressier pieces to add to my pants and to donate the rest. I generally like simple, classic, solid colors and low contrast outfits. Timeless things.
So, how much and what pieces to keep? Any suggestions?
Thanks,
Pam
Kacey says
Maybe try picking your favourite/most flattering colour, and only keep items which co-ordinate with it? When I’m travelling (a lot), I only take co-ordinating colours (usually pink/red/purple/blue), which simplifies washing, and limits what shoes/accessories I need to take.
Brenda says
No suggestions…I just love your daily uniform and wanted to tell you that!
CountryMouse says
Pam – If I were nearby, I would buy your cashmere sweaters if they had no holes and were from a non-smoking home. I had a few nice ones until the cat destroyed them (!) five years ago and I haven’t been able to afford to replace them. Thrift stores are my main shopping ground, and around here, the only wool/cashmere that ends up at Goodwill has holes torn in it. I’m cold all winter with my cotton/acrylic layers and I still miss my black sweater.
Liz says
I found the dressier stuff the hardest to part with when to a minimalist wardrobe too. I’m a SAHM and tend to live in jeans/denim shorts and then vary between tshirts and blouses depending on what I’m doing- but I had lots of beautiful dresses etc from my double income, no kids days. I really only need a nice dress for the odd engagement party, wedding or anniversary dinner but also didn’t really want to wear the same one or two dresses over and over (I’m still a little bit vain ????). I sold all my beautiful but rarely worn dresses/heels/jewellery/clutches etc and decided to just buy a new-to-me dress when ever I needed it off my favourite designer buy-sell-swap groups on Facebook and then resell once I’ve worn it. I’ve bought gorgeous designer dresses that retail for $800+ for $100 or so, worn them once and been able to resell them usually for the exact same price, so all its cost me is the postage price (and a little time). For most dressy events you usually have a few weeks notice so plenty of time to find a good option. I kept my two favourite dressy items (a timeless and super flattering little black dress and a beautiful silk kimono type jacket) for those dressy events that pop-up without warning.
Dan Erickson says
I’ve always aired toward a small wardrobe. I did catch myself with a fuller closet a few years ago, but have done some downsizing in the past few years. For me, I don’t think it’s about how much we spend on our wardrobe than it is on the quality of the clothing in the closet. I’d gladly spend $300 on Filson Coat that will last a lifetime than have five cheaper coats. I’d spend $150 on a great pair of running shoes rather than buying the ones that I’d have to trash in 6 months.
Amy@MoreTimeThanMoney says
Thanks for this post Courtney. Very timely for me. This month I am playing The Minimalism Game, and this time I am going to tackle my closet. I’ve avoided it thus far in my decluttering, however I have turned a corner in coming to accept that the clothes in there I don’t fit today I am highly unlikely to fit into again in the near future!
A bit daunted at facing the cost of it all – but like your kind of opportunity cost perspective of reconsidering it all.
Wish me luck – I feel like I need it (well strength more than luck). I am sharing my progress here, to motivate me to keep progressing:
https://moretimethanmoney.co.nz/2016/07/01/here-we-go-again-minsgame-round-two/