“What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us.” —A.W. Tozer
When I was in college, I read the preceding quote from the theologian/philosopher A.W. Tozer. The substance was so profound I have never forgotten its message almost 15 years later. It continues to spring up again and again in my mind on a regular basis.
I realize spirituality can be a very touchy topic that arouses countless strong opinions, intellectual arguments, and far too many unspeakable emotional wounds. Nevertheless, I believe the quote above holds true. There is nothing more central to our lives than our understanding of spirituality. And it is a conversation we ought to engage in far more often than we do.
Whether we have intentionally pursued a personal spirituality or not, our beliefs have a profound impact on our lives. Consciously or subconsciously, it influences us in countless ways. Consider how it impacts our understanding of…
- Ourselves. Does God care about me? Is He mad at me or pleased with me? If there is no God, who am I? And where did I orginate?
- Others. Are all lives equal? If so, on what basis? What is my responsibility to care for others?
- Minimalism. If we have removed the pursuit of worldly possessions from our affections, with what will we replace it?
- The world around us. In what specific ways should we care about the world and the environment around us? Is our motivation in this regard more significant than survival of our species? And if so, how do we as humans responsibly interact with it?
- Morality. Is there a moral set of truth for the universe established from a higher power? Or is morality determined by each individual?
- Evil. What am I to understand about the evil and suffering in the world? Is it there for a reason? To what extent should I try to counteract it?
- Money. Does the universe give money/status to some and not others? Or is money/status earned by the individual? What should I do with it when I obtain it? Do I hold any responsibility to care for those with less?
- Afterlife. Is there life after death? Is death something to be feared or welcomed? And either way, how should I be preparing for it today?
No doubt, our understanding of spirituality carries great influence on our lives. For that reason, one of the most significant journeys we can ever embark upon is the exploration of it.
I understand fully this community is made up of readers from every imaginable religious/non-religious background. I am so very thankful for that reality. And I should be quick to mention this post is not an endorsement of any specific religion. Instead, my hope is only to prompt each of us to further consider the role of spirituality in our everyday lives. And cause us to joyfully embrace the journey rather than shy away from it.
Because of the important role it plays, you will never regret any time spent furthering your understanding of the Universe. Whether you have never tried, have tried but given up, or spend time everyday seeking one specific God, let me offer seven beginning steps that are central to our personal exploration of spirituality.
A Beginner’s Guide to Exploring Spirituality
1. Respect those that have gone before. The quest to understand spirituality is as old as humanity itself. Billions have gone before and have spent countless hours seeking spirituality. Don‘t overlook their efforts. Consider their findings and their writings—even those outside the religion you have become accustomed to.
2. Your journey must be your own. You alone must be the decision-maker for your view of God. You should not blindly accept the teachings of another (even your closest mentor or parent). Your heart must ring true and your spirit must rejoice in your spirituality—or it is worthless.
3. Start right where you are. We all have special gifts of character: compassion, laughter, self-discipline, love, etc. Use them as your starting point. Are you facing a trial in life (disease, loss, rejection)? Use it as motivation to further pursue your understanding of spirituality. Lao-tzu once said, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” He was right in every regard. Start your journey with whatever first step makes the most sense to you.
4. Ask God for help. By this I mean, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by making the request. If there is a God, He may answer your prayer. And if there is no God, the process of making the request will still work to help focus your senses and desire.
5. Practice, practice, practice. Like everything else in life, spiritual growth is mastered through practice. If you don’t find your answers after your first few steps, take some more in a different direction. It will require time, effort, and energy. But given its influence on our lives, it is always worth the effort in the end.
6. Don’t be afraid of unanswered questions. Although leaving questions unanswered may sound contrary to the goal of the pursuit, we should not be afraid of them. These unanswered questions will cause some to forever abandon the journey. And while our spirituality should make sense of our heart‘s deepest questions, it would seem unreasonable to believe our minds could successfully fathom all the mysteries of the universe.
7. Be wary of “everyone is right” thinking. If there is no God, there is no God. If there is a God, He is something specific. Personally, I am skeptical of the thinking that says God can change from one person to another—that philosophy crumbles under the weight of its own logic. God is who God is. And it‘s our responsibility to successfully find Him.
Again, I realize fully this journey is going to look different for every single one of us. Spirituality is a highly personal matter and will likely result in different outcomes. This is not a post that endorses any specific religion. It is simply a post of encouragement and a reminder this journey is important.
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I do not typically moderate comments too closely (unless they turn offensive). But I might make a suggestion for this post. In the comments below, I would be interested to hear about your personal journey toward spirituality. How did it begin? And how did you arrive at your understanding? I think this conversation will be more helpful and encouraging than a specific argument made for choosing your view.
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Hello,
I’ve never really thought about practicing anything like this although I feel I am a spiritual person in the sense that I do believe in something, and I feel secure in the knowing that ‘something’ is there even if I’m not sure what it is.
Lately I feel like I’m struggling as my grandfather is sick and looks like his life may not go on for much longer. I’ve never really felt grief in my life as I come from a small family so it’s only really been my parents and my siblings who I am very close to although I do have a special bond with my grandad… I feel like I need something to help me and I’m not really sure what it is or what I’m searching for but I feel like I need some comfort if that makes sense – to be honest I don’t know if any of what I’m saying is making sense but it’s bought me here so I’m hoping that it will.
Thank you
You addressing ‘God’ as male does espouse a specific philosophy. Addressing spirit as gender neutral would avoid perpetuating harmful dogma. I agree with so much of what you said otherwise :)
I agree with you! I fully resonated with everything in this article, except for the last section, and I think that was apart of it. I also am confused by that whole idea in #7, the title says be wary of “everyone is right” thinking, but then he mentions, “if there is a God, He is something specific,” but that is just HIS opinion. So I think the way it’s worded is pretty counterintuitive to the main point. Other than that, a wonderful article!
Hello,
I am almost 50 and it feels like I am going through the identity crisis. My parents are in unthinkably sad situation and it is hard to deal with. After reading your article, I believe that finding my path into spirituality may help me. But I don’t know how to start. Can anybody help me.
Thank you
I have always believed in something. When I was 10 or so and there was a social ruckus about removing the word “God” from the pledge of allegiance, I gave my family and school the advice of simply leaving a blank so people could say whatever word was right for them. Anyway, it wasn’t until I was 23 and wanted to try a new fitness routine that I found yoga. I think many Westerners are originally attracted to yoga for the physical benefits, and like so many I soon felt there was something more, something much deeper to be explored. I headed of to yoga school the next summer. Since then I have had to whittle away the parts of spirituality that were not me and continue to explore to find new areas and activities of spiritual inspiration. It’s a life long practice that is fully embedded into my life.
Thanks for this great article! I really appreciate your concise and compassionate understanding.
Ive been feeling spirits around me for some time. I always excepted them. They never made me feel frightened.
I dont believe in god.
However, with what is going on in the world today, I can’t help thinking that he has something to do with this.
I recently lost 2 very close friends who had found god, when they died I had this dread inside me. I knew something worse was going to happen.
Am I going mad?
Hi. You say you believe in “spirits,” don´t believe in God, but actually consider God responsible for the state of the world, and associate God with the death of two believing friends, a feeling of dread, and imagining worse events in the future.
Then you ask if you are going “mad”.
You are just mentioning some of your thoughts and experiences tending towards fear and dread. This site is about exploring spirituality. “Going mad” is a psychological term, so you might want to start exploring therapeutic psychology. Do a search at a book site for Clarissa Pinkola Estes, for example, and check out her ideas and other related authors and books.
Louise Hay wrote an amazing early book years ago called You Can Heal Your Life that offers excellent ideas. Melody Beattie did, too, called Beyond Codependency, that actually goes well with the 12 step Recovery Movement groups like Al-Anon and CoDA, if you want to get out and hear some people who will also want to hear you. Julia Cameron wrote The Artists´ Way which is creatively inspiring. Chellis Glendinning wrote “…Recovering From Western Civilization,” Ann W Schaef When Society Becomes an Addict, and Marj Kelly Owning Our Future as she tells responsible economic activist stories. Francis M Lappe has written many great books, including Hope´s Edge that also tell great and hopeful story accounts. Good luck, and God bless.