Editor’s note: This is a guest post by Brooke McAlary of Slow Your Home.
“Be not afraid of going slowly; be only afraid of standing still.” – Chinese Proverb
I am a writer. I am a wife. I am a mother. I am an inappropriate laugher.
I am also a passionate advocate of simple living, rational minimalism, living with less – whatever you want to call this movement we are part of.
I came to both minimalism and writing in my darkest times, and I don’t think that is a coincidence. I was lost and despairing. Taking control of my life and rediscovering my creative passions have helped me carve out a life of intention, happiness and purpose. And it’s freaking awesome.
There is a book on writing I love. It’s called ‘Bird by Bird’ by Anne Lamott. It’s filled with writing advice, huge belly laughs and incredible insights into the particular breed of weird that is a creative author.
My copy is well-thumbed and lives on my desk, next to where I currently sit.
The title comes from a story Anne Lamott tells of her older brother. He is ten years old and struggling to start, let alone finish, a paper on birds. He has had three months to complete it, and the paper is due the next day.
He was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books on birds, immobilised by the hugeness of the task ahead.
Despairing, he pleads with his father for advice on how to start – and finish.
Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.
In other words: Don’t think about the whole paper. Just start with one bird. Finish that bird. Then move on.
And son? Do it now.
As a writer, I loved the simplicity of the advice – just get it down bit by bit, word by word. One thought at a time.
As a minimalist, I was inspired – start with one thing, work it through, then move on. Bit by bit, piece by piece.
Bird By Bird: The Slow Guide to Minimalism
Honestly, creating a life of simplicity is easy. You simply begin.
The hard part is not looking too far ahead. Focusing on the bird in front of you, not the flock above. That’s when we falter, when it seems too much, too hard, too long, too sad, too emotional.
First, Take One Step.
Every journey begins with just one step. Simplifying your life, becoming a minimalist, living with less – this journey is no different. It begins with one step, one decision, one action.
It may be that you:
- Toss out the pair of favorite sneakers that are falling apart.
- Clear out the junk drawer in your kitchen.
- Say no to a commitment that has been draining you for too long.
- Clear out under the couch.
- Tidy your desk into a minimalist desk.
Then, Bird by Bird
As you finish with that first step, the next one will become apparent. Just trust the process and resist temptation to look too far ahead.
- Once the sneakers are gone, you will see the clothes you no longer wear.
- When the junk drawer is empty, you will move on to the utensils.
- Once you’ve cancelled your draining commitment, you will notice the time you waste on Facebook.
- When the floor under the couch is clear, you will notice the overflowing bookshelf.
- After your desk is orderly, you will see the piles of paperwork that need filing.
Bird by bird.
It all starts with one decision. A decision to forge a better life. A decision to say no. A decision to value people over things. A decision to let go.
That particular decision is yours. The important part is that you make one, follow it through, then move forward.
Bird by bird.
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Brooke McAlary helps families live more simple and mindful lives at Slow Your Home.
Laney | Crash Test Mummy says
I really appreciate the ‘bird by bird’ analogy. Or even worn out sneakers. I have a lot of ‘worn out sneakers’.
Tam says
So perfect! I start out so often with a bird by bird attitude but then get impatient and discouraged. Back to the small tasks tomorrow.
Drew says
Solid advice, and a funny anecdote from Anne Lamott’s book (we’ve all suffered through a bout of priority paralysis at one point or another).
“Bird by bird” is a good start, but sometimes you have to step back and see that the sneakers and the untidy desk are just symptoms of a larger problem that calls for a more radical solution.
By all means, pick the low-hanging fruit. But also be prepared to chop the tree down…or even change orchards altogether.
Bohemian Christian Chelle says
Breaking it down makes it so easy. We get so overwhelmed with “stuff” that we just sit and do nothing. Kudos to a great article!
~Bohemian Christian Chelle
Lisa Aherne says
Fantastic post. I really love your work Brooke. It is making an amazing difference to how I look at my home and I am taking the steps bird by bird as suggested. My favourite sneakers are gone, my kitchen is getting better, and I have already cancelled some commitments which were robbing me of essential time at home. I feel happier in my world, even though I have a long way to go before I could dream of calling myself uncluttered.
Teri Kojetin says
Thank you for the post today, Brooke. I had been so overwhelmed by the stuff in our house. It wasn’t horrible because I’m organized but I had felt for a long time that I needed to minimize and declutter. Josh’s book, Simplicity, got me started. Last week I started and since I work at home I had more time. I am almost done with the whole house, minus a few areas my husband needs to do. I gave so much away and sold 10 tote bags of books. What you wrote about noticing another area after cleaning one, is so true. Now I walk around and ask myself: “What else can I get rid of?” I feel so free and content. One of my friends said I look happier and she can tell that a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders!
Michelle says
Thank you, Brooke. I needed this today. “Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.” is now a graphic on the wall in my office. And it will generate a lovely conversation once my 10 year-old sees it.
Patrick says
Brooke: This is a great article and I love your Bird by Bird analogy to simplifying. On a writing note: check out James Altucher’s blog and his 33 tips to becoming a better writer. I think you’d enjoy his quirkiness.
Claire/Just a little less says
A beautiful analogy. I began my minimalist journey two years ago and can’t believe the difference in my life now. Decluttering one’s life is a huge task but when broken down into small steps is achievable. I need constant advice and inspiration, though, so thanks for this post :)
Ally says
Thank you for this inspirational article.
I am also inspired to seek out Lamott’s book.
‘Bird by bird’- what a great saying!