“A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you’re looking down, you can’t see the things above you.” – C.S. Lewis
Almost everyone I know is trying to live their best life possible. It seems we are born with a deep, ingrained sense that we only get one life… and are compelled to make the most of it. We desperately desire to be proud of the life we’ve lived.
Unfortunately, many of us will seek pride in the wrong places. We will look for pride in power, popularity, and possessions. We will hurt others in an attempt to move up society’s ladder. We will sacrifice uniqueness to gain popularity. And we will waste countless hours chasing more and better possessions. But no amount of power, popularity, or possessions will ever satisfy our deepest desires. Those things will always fall short. And there is no sense looking for pride in places that cannot provide it.
One of the greatest benefits of choosing to live a simple, minimalist life is that many of the pursuits above become replaced. And while choosing to intentionally live with less doesn’t automatically shift the focus of our lives… it can certainly provide the space that makes it possible.
It just may begin to shift our focus upwards to things that bring us true, lasting pride. Things like:
- A Clear Conscience. Living a life consistent with our values.
- Character. Choosing to treat others and ourselves with high esteem and respect.
- Sincerity. Living with no attempt to deceive those around us.
- Wisdom. Not being tossed and turned by the culture of the day, but laying a foundation of certainty from outside our ever-shifting culture.
- Love. Embracing a heart that, above everything else, seeks to love others.
Just to be clear, choosing a minimalist life doesn’t always result in a clear conscience, unparalleled character, unwavering sincerity, or boundless love. Nor is everyone who seeks those things a minimalist. There are, after all, many paths to the same end.
But I am saying that every so often, we need to slow down long enough to notice the focus of our lives. Afer all, the allure of power, popularity, and possessions can be almost too great to overcome. And intentionally choosing to remove them may be the only way to create the space needed to reject them completely.
kevin blumer says
im allways trying to improve my life allways but i never seem to suceed for some reason something allways keeps me back my BPD i think has something to do with it but i try my best
Mrs. Neutron says
“A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you’re looking down, you can’t see the things above you.” – C.S. Lewis
This seems to me to be a wonderful slogan for the generation raised on pumped up, artificial, self esteem. Who got and give trophies for “just showing up”. Could a proud man “possibly” have anything legitimate to be proud of? Could an enormous expenditure of time and effort to achieve excellence, mastery and prominence in anything “possibly” be something to be proud of to members of a “minimalist” movement? Who could POSSIBLY rise above a level of mediocrity WITHOUT constantly, not only looking above themselves… but studying it intently.
I confess that I remain unconvinced that minimalism is more than a path of least resistance, perhaps, held to by those who have admitted to themselves that they lack the ambition, or, talent to achieve what those they feel superior to have achieved. I wonder what Darwin, the ultimate collector, would make of minimalists and the idea that adding to ones possessions, wealth and pride was, in the end, a big mistake.
joshua becker says
Again, there is probably not too much sense in going around and around on this point. You have clearly articulated your feelings.
Suze says
There will be some that do not understand. And that is okay. Personally, I appreciate this site very much and I thank you for the time and effort you put into it. Since I started living the minimalist lifestyle, my life has been happier and richer. It has been the best thing I have done for myself and looking forward to the opportunities coming my way now that I have made space for it. Thank you again.
Peter says
Awesome post, and great quote by C.S. Lewis. I always love reading articles like this.
Thank you!
Katie @ Imperfect People says
I did a story on a family today that made me think of your blog. They sold all of their STUFF and hit the road in an RV (their new home) to minister to people. Thought it was pretty cool stuff.
Mel says
“There are, after all, many paths to the same end.”
My feelings exactly.
I like the path that you frequently blog about.
Lisa says
This is such a great post. Thank you for sharing it, and brightening my morning.
Jo@simplybeingmum says
Stay true to yourself and to others, integrity is so very important. This will see you right in the end.
Mrs. Neutron says
Thanks Joshua,
I think that what you and I are seeing here is a “generation gap”. How many children do you have or, how many lives are you responsible for? I don’t doubt that, as you say, “people with less possessions find more value in family, relationships, and spirituality”. My question would be, Do they have a choice?
Spirituality, religion and the paranormal beliefs, that are ubiquitous, exist because the consolation of imaginary things is NOT imaginary consolation.
I confess that I do not understand your last paragraph at all. “wise people find a foundation of truth outside of culture”… .. “the messages and trends of culture can not be trusted”…
Where is that place “outside of culture”? What being has no culture? If no culture can be trusted and no trend can be trusted or valuable to observe… I honestly have no idea what you are suggesting people do besides, perhaps, trust their innate, gut instincts that could just as easily lead to cannibalism as utopia and enlightenment.
Wouldn’t it just be simpler to say, “The only thing money can’t buy is time and nobody ever laid on their deathbed saying… crap, I wish I worked more.” And then leave it at that without attempting to weave some profound and philosophical aura around it, as if this was a “new” and revolutionary concept?
I honestly don’t mean to sound condescending, but, minimalism appears to be a natural “cultural trend” itself… developing far more out of economic necessity than some “Ah HA!” moment of enlightenment.
Anonymous says
If you don’t understand anything about minimalism, then SHUT UP and DON’T READ HERE!
Bill says
Truth is true regardless of culture. If it isn’t, it isn’t truth but cultural preference.
keishua says
@Mrs. Neutron- I hear what you are saying. Poverty is not the same as voluntary simplicity. Poverty can suck your soul dry. I think having enough and worrying about survival are two very different issues but I understand what you are getting at. It is a really sensitive line and I think unless people realize the class privilege that affords them the option to chose then this movement will always be problematic.
Mrs. Neutron says
EXACTLY keishua!
I’m not trying to be rude, but, a lot of this sounds like overstuffed people talking about how wonderful it is to go on a diet. Or, people who find they have no hope of “winning” the game attempting to justify “why” they are not interested in playing.
Do you see what I mean?
joshua becker says
There is probably not too much sense in going around and around on this point. But thanks for the discussion.
This is a post that invites people to care more about their character than the amount of things they own. It calls people who live with too much stuff to choose less for the purpose of finding time and space to evaluate their lives.
Mrs. Neutron says
I won’t trouble you any more joshua, but the idea that character is inversely proportional to possessions is ludicrous and people in prison have all the time in the world to evaluate their lives…. Rarely does it help.
Minimalism is just the newest in a long line of counter cultural movements restating age old concepts.
Mrs. Neutron says
I confess, I’m getting a bit lost here. There are billions of people living a “minimalist life” on $1 or $2 a day and they are no closer to a happy life as a result. Is this just a counter cultural “sub-culture” rejection of capitalism? That certainly isn’t anything new and is, in the end, only realistic.
I am particularly confused by this one…
Wisdom. Not being tossed and turned by the culture of the day, but laying a foundation of certainty from outside our ever-shifting culture.
Tightening ones belt and not economically getting in over ones head acquiring material things IS the current culture. What “laying a foundation of certainty from outside our ever-shifting culture” is…. I have no idea.
Somebody help me out here.
joshua becker says
Welcome. Let me see if I can help.
As I mentioned, I do not think that minimalism by itself will lead to a happier life that you can be more proud of. That is because it is things like character, sincerity, wisdom, and love that lead to that outcome. My point was that minimalism provides the opportunity to evaluate life and pursue those things. Someone who has decided to stop chasing possessions (and the subsequent need to care for them) will have far more time to evaluate their life and its trajectory to see if energy is being expended on meaningful things.
I agree, just because someone is living on less that $2/day does not mean they will be happier by default. However, I do think that they do have more opportunity to pursue those meaningful things. In fact, I have spent much time in third-world countries serving the poor and can say from firsthand experience that generally speaking, people with less possessions find more value in family, relationships, and spirituality.
My point about wisdom was to stress the point that wise people find a foundation of truth outside of culture. The point was based on the fact that the messages and trends of culture can not be trusted. It was not specifically tied to spending (although I would argue with your premise given the fact that 43% of Americans spend more than they make and even more blindly live paycheck-to-paycheck).
Tanya says
Joshua, I come from one of those third-world countries, and you are right on target. Coming to this country, and buying into consumerism to reach the “American Dream” has not brought the type of happiness in my life that I had when I was with less in my country…surrounded by family, community and meaningful experiences.