“If you make a habit of buying things you do not need, you will soon be selling things you do.” —Filipino Proverb
Our experiences hint at it. Studies confirm it.
Buying material things don’t make us happy.
The pursuit and purchase of physical possessions will never fully satisfy our desire for happiness. It may result in temporary joy for some, but the happiness found in buying a new item rarely lasts longer than a few days. Researchers even have a phrase for this temporary fulfillment: retail therapy.
There are many reasons buying more material things won’t make us happy.
9 Reasons Buying Material Things Won’t Make You Happy
They all begin to fade. All possessions are temporary by nature. They look shiny and new in the store. But immediately, as soon as the package is opened, they begin to perish, spoil, or fade.
There is always something new right around the corner. New models, new styles, new improvements, and new features. From clothes and cars to kitchen gadgets and technology, our world moves forward. And planned obsolescence makes sure our most recent purchase will be out of use sooner rather than later.
Each purchase adds extra worry to our lives. Every physical item we bring into our lives represents one more thing that can be broken, scratched, or stolen.
Possessions require maintenance. The things we own require time, energy, and focus. They need to be cleaned, organized, managed, and maintained. And as a result, they often distract us from the things that truly do bring us lasting happiness.
Our purchases cost us more than we realize. In stores, products are measured in dollars and cents. But as Henry David Thoreau once said, “The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” We don’t buy things with money, we buy them with hours from our lives.
We discover other people aren’t all that impressed. Subconsciously (and sometimes even consciously), we expect our newest purchases will impress other people. They will notice our new car, computer, jacket, or shoes. But most of the time, they are less impressed than we think. Instead, most of them are too busy trying to impress you with their newest purchase.
Someone else always has more. The search for happiness in possessions is always short-lived because it is based on faulty reasoning that buckles under its own weight. If happiness is found in buying material things and more stuff, those with more will always be happier. The game can never be won.
Shopping does not quench our desire for contentment. Contentment is never found in the purchase of more stuff. Our overflowing closets and drawers stand as proof. No matter how much we get, it’s never enough.
Experiences make us happier than possessions. All research points to the fact there are far more effective way to find happiness: enjoying life-changing experiences, for example.
And 1 Thing that Might
Adyashanti, the American-born spiritual teacher, offers a theory as to why the acquisition of new possessions provides only a temporal feeling of happiness. He explains it this way:
When we make a purchase and/or get what we want, we are temporarily happy and fulfilled. But the reason for happiness is not because we got what we wanted, but because for a brief period of time, we stopped wanting, and thus we experience peace and happiness.
On the topic of buying stuff, his thoughts are helpful. And I have repeated his theory dozens of times in private conversations. Of course, the natural conclusion of this thinking is to limit our desires and wants—to find peace and happiness by not wanting.
But for me, this conclusion falls short.
The goal of minimalism is not to remove desire entirely from my life. Instead, the goal of minimalism is to redirect my desires.
There are valuable pursuits available to us: love, justice, faith, compassion, contribution, redemption, just to name a few. These should be pursued with great fervor. But far too often, we trade the pursuit of lasting fulfillment for temporary happiness. We can do better. We can dream bigger.
Redirect your desires toward lasting pursuits. Find happiness there.
You will never find the right things looking in the wrong places. (tweet that)
About Joshua Becker
Buying material things don’t make us happy.
The pursuit and purchase of physical possessions will never fully satisfy our desire for happiness. It may result in temporary joy for some, but the happiness found in buying a new item rarely lasts longer than a few days. Researchers even have a phrase for this temporary fulfillment: retail therapy.
There are many reasons buying more material things won’t make us happy.
9 Reasons Buying Material Things Won’t Make You Happy
They all begin to fade. All possessions are temporary by nature. They look shiny and new in the store. But immediately, as soon as the package is opened, they begin to perish, spoil, or fade.
There is always something new right around the corner. New models, new styles, new improvements, and new features. From clothes and cars to kitchen gadgets and technology, our world moves forward. And planned obsolescence makes sure our most recent purchase will be out of use sooner rather than later.
Each purchase adds extra worry to our lives. Every physical item we bring into our lives represents one more thing that can be broken, scratched, or stolen.
Possessions require maintenance. The things we own require time, energy, and focus. They need to be cleaned, organized, managed, and maintained. And as a result, they often distract us from the things that truly do bring us lasting happiness.
Our purchases cost us more than we realize. In stores, products are measured in dollars and cents. But as Henry David Thoreau once said, “The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” We don’t buy things with money, we buy them with hours from our lives.
We discover other people aren’t all that impressed. Subconsciously (and sometimes even consciously), we expect our newest purchases will impress other people. They will notice our new car, computer, jacket, or shoes. But most of the time, they are less impressed than we think. Instead, most of them are too busy trying to impress you with their newest purchase.
Someone else always has more. The search for happiness in possessions is always short-lived because it is based on faulty reasoning that buckles under its own weight. If happiness is found in buying material things and more stuff, those with more will always be happier. The game can never be won.
This i use in my Gp class!!!!!!
“Give me neither beggary nor riches. Give me only the necessaries of life.” -Proverbs 30:8
I experienced “decent” surroundings growing up and experienced money creating a lot of problems: rather than being overjoyed that we could afford lots of food and things, people would complain about some small defect or problem that in the grand scheme of things didn’t matter. Money gave the leisure to allow for creating unnecessary drama and making choices that poorer people wouldn’t have the “luxury” of making the mistake of.
This made me go from an extreme of perceived materialism to wanting extreme minimalism, the least amount of material things I could get along with. This created its own set of problems and over time I have naturally added all kinds of tools and things to my life as have seemed necessary or beneficial.
Adding riches can multiply desires and people become greedy. They also may become “time poor” while becoming more materially abundant (I think studies show wealthier people work MORE than poorer people, which to me seems counter-productive, because if you’re “working smarter” why aren’t you working with less stress and less?).
Yet being poor also creates limitations, and all the things we associate negatively with poverty. The same greed can exist, and poorer people can end up working more if their jobs can’t cover their bills.
My take on this is to have a reasonable moderation like the Biblical quote above, neither poverty nor excessive riches, but to be able to cover your needs and have a little extra to add a little extra “joy” on top of that.
Beautiful! I love your life philosophy!
Enjoy as you can and while you can. Be smarter and be decisive as you grow older. Do not neglect the advice of others who had walked that same path before you. And remember there is the truth, which remains the truth that could never be mixed or muddled up with human experience.
The material things never become the reason of real happiness. It is a natural fact. The reasons that you give are absolutely true. The happiness of materials become fade after certain time and never become the reason of permanent happiness.
I agree with John Mike, would you be as happy with those things if you did not have your wife and family to share them with? Imagine coming home to an empty house. Would the pool, bike, fine clothes etc… make you feel the same? I beg to differ. Congrats on making your life more for-filled by your hard work and dedication. But it’s truly more enlightened by the family you get to share those experiences and enjoyment with. Keep that in mind when you think it just those specific items that are bringing you your “happiness”.
I entirely disagree. Material objects definitely make me happy because I use them all the time doing things that make me happy. I was welfare poor growing up in rural WV. I worked mining and factory jobs to pay for college and grad school during most of my 20s. I’m 34 now, have my MSc and MBA and I’m finally at a job earning a really good salary.
I became SO MUCH happier when I actually had money to buy everything I wanted as a kid and young adult. I wanted to play french horn, but it was too expensive. Now I have a really sweet Hans Hoyer double horn and play in a community orchestra and brass quintet. That has given me literally thousands of hours of happiness so far.
I never really had video games growing up except for a gameboy color and maybe 5 games that I saved up money for from mowing lawns. As an adult I have been able to buy all the games I missed over the years SNES, Xbox 360, PS1 to PS4, you name it. Those have provided me over a thousand hours of happiness and still counting.
I never had a bike that worked well as a kid, just a beat up old (and too small for me almost all my teenage years) mountain bike that used to be a cousin’s and was never a pleasure to ride. Well, as an adult I bought myself an awesome Trek bike and ride that thing all the time … and again, probably five hundred hours of happiness from that so far.
My clothes are almost all bespoke now too, which is a heck of an improvement over the hand-me-down walmart and salvation army stuff I had as a kid. Wearing my nice clothing makes me happy every time I put them on. They feel better, they fit better, they don’t wear out as easily, I get complements on how nice I look, etc… happiness!
My wife and I built an in-ground pool a few years ago. It is one of the best purchases I’ve ever made. I use it over 150 days a year (live in TX so swimming season lasts a while) and I’m always happy when I use it.
I have a huge list of stuff I still want someday and I’m sure each thing on there will bring me hundreds to thousands of hours of happiness.
a very well-reasoned and thoughtful reply. I agree.
Perhaps the balance is in making sure you always own your stuff, rather than your stuff owning you.
So long as you’re left of that curve, Stay Calm and Purchase On.
Nothing wrong in buying as long as you maximize its use. Or else hoarding becomes a burden.
Absolutely spot on otherwise it just becomes clutter which leads to chaos!
you sound in denial.is it the objects making you happy or your family?in the end of the day objects dont make people happy its the emotions they get from them and put too them and the enviroment that makes them happy
Isn’t that a warren buffet quote ?
Agree with you