A close family friend, as healthy as you’d ever imagine, suffered a heart-attack on Thanksgiving morning. He went to bed on November 21st, but did not awake on the 22nd. Survived by his wife and two kids.
My neighbor is in his 40’s and was recently diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. I played basketball with him just a few months before. His diagnosis surprised everybody—including him.
I recently received a phone call on an otherwise normal Tuesday morning that a friend of mine had lost his teenage daughter in an automobile accident the night before. As awful a news as anyone could ever receive.
Then there is the story of my relative, who showed up to work last summer, only to find her workplace being searched by the authorities as they investigated fraud. By the end of the week, she was without work.
And my parents, just yesterday, were in a car accident. Everybody is fine, fortunately. But their automobile was totaled.
Life changes fast. This season of life you are in could end at any time. Everything could change tomorrow.
Of course, tomorrow isn’t necessarily worse than today. It may change for the better.
In early December 2001, my wife walked into our living room to share important news with me, she was pregnant with our first child. My life forever changed that day.
Our best friends down the street received a job promotion that took them back home to Texas. My cousin, simply hanging out with friends one evening was introduced to a girl, who quickly became his girlfriend, and soon became his wife.
And my life changed dramatically for the better on a Saturday morning 10 years ago when my neighbor unexpectedly introduced me to minimalism—a conversation that changed my passion and eventually, my career.
They say the only constant in life is change. They are right.
Sometimes we plan out our lives—our days, our weeks, our years—and everything falls into place. But other times, we make our plans, only to have them upended by circumstances outside of our control.
Either way, the only constant is change. Life never remains the same. Sometimes it changes for the better, sometimes it changes for the worse, but always for something different than today.
I find myself reflecting on that fact this morning as I sit alone at this empty table. My life is good, and peaceful in this moment. My family is happy, and we are all healthy. I have friends I can rely on, extended family I enjoy being with, and our financial needs are being met doing work that I love.
lt is easy, I suppose, to think life will stay this way forever. But that is not the case. Everything could change as early as tomorrow.
This may cause some to worry. But I do not think the best response is to worry about the future. I mean, the change that is coming could be a positive one. Besides, worrying won’t change the future anyway. Change is going to happen whether you worry about it or not.
Instead, I think the best response is to fully appreciate this very moment, because it could change at any time.
If life is good, count your blessings, be thankful, and enjoy the moments—every single one of them. Slow down, take a deep breath, and savor this season as best you can.
If, on the other hand, your life is not in a good place, take heart, because change is coming. As the seasons change, so does life. Value love, faith, and hope. Find peace to accept the things you cannot change and courage to change the things you can. But through it all, remember, this is only a season. Things will change, they always do.
If you can only live one moment at a time, you might as well make it the present. After all, we have no idea how long “today” will last… everything could change as soon as tomorrow.
Andrea Lilli says
The man says : time passes by. The time says : man passes by.
Arifa says
Excellent and very deep.
Minimalism requires deep thinking . You need to know why one should not hoard or keep piling stuff….minimalism is a life style and life changer..its a way of thinking.
I am from Pakistan and live in KSA..yet this article resonates with me.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Sharon R says
Thank you for the reminder! We get into a ‘groove’ of our present reality (be it good or not so good), and can completely forget to be ‘present’. Being mindful and acknowledging what is going well, and the people that are positive influences in our lives is important (and ignoring the negative). Even if we are just able to focus on the simple things and slow down for a few minutes…time flies and we will miss our own life otherwise.
Karolina says
This article made me actually think of a conversation I had with a friend about a TED-talk. We discussed how life flies by and how much is out of control. But also how much we CAN change but don’t because we hope that the change will come to us.
Aidee says
Thanks for this article. I already share it.
Terri says
Thank. you. for. TRUTH.
Jeannette B says
Great reminder! thanks for sharing! I don’t always have tome to read everything in my inbox, but I always make a point to read yours! As usual this one didnt’ disappoint! JB
Joe Seattleton says
I recently began getting rid of things out of my life and this does indeed help very much so
Karla says
I lost my best friend 2 summers ago to a mountain climbing accident. Someone fit, smart & lovely gone forever over a weekend. I was devastated. I had completed Joshua’s program. My house was in order, my freezer full of ready made meals. At a time when even breathing was hard, all that we had done served us in a way that was unimaginable. Taking care of yourself today can treat you kindly tomorrow & get you through the tough times. My prayers go out to all that are grieving. Your work remains in high regard, Joshua. I thank you often.
Monique says
My mother told me, “there is one thing you can be CERTAIN of…CHANGE”. It’s something I’ve always struggled with and she knew it, since losing her 10 years ago (a very difficult change in my life) I’ve tried to embrace ‘change’, because there is no getting around it.. it’s going to happen! With going through difficult times with children, wonderful times with family and friends and not so wonderful- life is a blessing, that should be our focus. Joshua, I think you hit it spot on…I’ve followed your blog for quite some time and always enjoy it?