Bag hovering inches above the staircase, I felt a rip. The stitches started snapping in an uncontrollable domino effect around the circumference. After moving all day, I knew nothing could stop it.
Everything promptly tumbled and spilled down the stairs. I was no longer carrying miscellaneous household goods—just two useless, plastic straps.
I suddenly felt the weight of our possessions. Literally.
I’ve moved friends and family more times than I can count. Bottom of boxes have caved in, waffle irons have fallen on feet, and someone has sworn in exasperation, “Never again! Why do we own this anyway?”
Despite these aggravations, there is a joy that remains after every move. Paring down items, packing up, and moving are lasting, growthful processes. Moving empowers us to have a healthier relationship with stuff.
I’ve moved 15 times in my life—and enjoyed each and every new location I’ve been able to call home.
When we move, we are required to physically handle each of our possessions four times: put it in a box; take it out of the house; bring it into the new home; unpack and put away.
It is, unarguably, one of the best times in life to declutter possessions.
If you’ve got a transition coming up or are right in the middle of one now, here are six ways to declutter when you move:
1. Get started early.
Packing up a home (and decluttering along the way) always takes more time than we think, so get started earlier than you think. Moving is an important time to declutter. Getting started early will keep you from the familiar panic as moving day inevitably creeps up on you.
2. Evaluate everything.
The act of picking up, packing, and lifting full boxes can provide an appreciation for what we continue to carry. Moves prompt us to consider what we’ve taken for granted. These times allow us to question our choices—our ownership. To place that thing in a box means you’ll continue to carry it. So, ask yourself, “Why do I own this? What does this object provide me? Am I ready to continue carrying this?”
3. Scan for dust.
Rub your finger along your old tupperware, unused glasses, or that extra blender you never knew you had. Does it have dust? This simple trick is something you can employ to judge usefulness. To purchase something, make room for it, and then let it collect dust should tell you whether you need it. Dust is your friend when you’re looking to own less and lighten your load going forward.
4. Challenge tendencies to collect and hoard.
Living in a space for years allows you to collect and add. Moving allows us to challenge these urges—to avoid hoarding tendencies. At some point, everything must be considered. While this might be a hoarder’s nightmare, moving forces us to refocus on what we choose to collect (today and in the future).
5. Practice letting go.
It is important to realize that consumption can never be completely quenched. We have urges. Marketers will continue to try and sell you more stuff, too. But there is much freedom to be found in getting rid of stuff and consuming less. However, subtraction doesn’t tend to be a natural part of the process when staying planted and living in one place for long periods. Moving provides a natural reason to practice letting go.
6. Donate and sell stuff.
Every move I’ve ever completed included visits to Goodwill and other non-profit organizations. Additionally, secondhand stores allow you to make a little extra money from all we declutter. These opportunities keep us grounded and allow for more generous considerations. We’re thinking about others’ needs when giving—which has benefits of its own.
7. Embrace friends and family.
Moving involves great psychological and physical effort. Friends and family have always been an incredible help in these times. Surprisingly, allowing these people in allows for an accountability of our purchases. Family can be quick to ask, “Why do you have three remotes at the back of the closet?” They’re asking the questions we need to be asking ourselves, as well. Additionally, having help can provide an appreciation and gratitude for those around you—and the burden you’re asking them to carry.
My family and I have lived in our current house for ten years now. We’ve grown to appreciate less total square footage, and found ways to stay close to the value of minimalism.
But there’s nothing quite like moving to remind us of the weight of stuff.
If you’re happy where you are, great! In that case, consider looking for ways to regularly engage in these processes whenever you can. Evaluate, scan, challenge, practice, donate, and embrace—regardless of whether you’re moving next week or never again.
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In every corner I have done this in the past. Until the end if my fourth moving due to jobs relocation I have found I ‘ve kept a lot of junks in those boxes that I thought I have discarded. LoL 😂
I may be moving to a home with one less bedroom, a smaller kitchen and no basement. I don’t have as much as some people but I still have more than I need. Those basement items are going to have to go somewhere and it may have to be out the door.
Moving from a house I’ve lived in for forty years to a small condo. From attic to basement, there are things that have been there the entire time. I’ve wondered whatever happened to that cashmere sweater I bought overseas. Maybe I will find what’s left of it😄. Wish me luck. I’m going in!
Have lived in our home for 38 yrs. Our home became a ‘storage unit’ for parents and grandparents as they left this world more than 20yrs ago. Not one relative came to get the items they asked us to ‘hold on to for just a short while’. We are now planning a move in 2022. Boxes that have not been opened for all those 20 plus yrs are getting a one minute (or less) peek and then headed to a thrift store ~ much is going to the county landfill. It is very freeing!! I wish we had not made our home available for a storage unit, which in turn created so much more work for us now…in our later years.
I have moved 15+ times. I love the decluttering each time we move. Six years ago we bought our home and I took 2 vanfuls of stuff to donate, and that’s after being a minimalist for quite a while (although my family isn’t quite on board yet). It’s so freeing to remove unwanted stuff from my life. Mostly it’s gifts people give us that ends up being given away. I try to tell people instead of stuff, if they really feel they want to buy a gift, make it time spent together making memories over a movie, mini golf, a meal, bowling, playing board games together, whatever…just no more stuff.
I agree Lisa,beautifully put . It’s all about the memories we make along life’s journey that really matters in the end
Moving is one of the best times to find out which items you really don’t need any more and which items you do. You find out that you haven’t really used a lot of the stuff in your house in the last year or so so you can practice letting go a lot better.
I am planning to retire next year and move to another state to be closer, to my children and granddaughter. I grew up in a British Army family and so moving countries every three years was pretty normal, I remember even as a child a sense of excitement at the thought of “starting fresh”. I am so pleased I have started this whole process now, it means I will have time to fine tune and trim down some more excess if need be.
I use to know someone who grew up in the military who moved many times as a kid & talked about how great it was to declutter every few years. She ended up marrying & neither of them were military and never had to move. After a few years of seeing their stuff pile up, she now pretends she is moving every couple of years. She will literally pack up and empty an entire room as if they are moving. Then she will unpack it & put stuff away. In doing so she ends up doing a major purge every couple of years. I always thought that was a great idea but never did it.
We live in a very small house and don’t have a whole lot but we are planning on moving soon & I can’t wait to purge. 😆
Moving? I have spent 20 years just moving from room to room…
Now its going i have alot to reflect on!!!!
What do i need really..
Its taken a year as my family are rebellious about letting things go..but i feel like im on the right path 😌
Oh Lisa that sentence “I’ve spent 20 years moving from room to room” resonated so much with me! It made me laugh with total empathy! I’ve recently descovered Joshua’s you tube channel and this is my first visit to his Blog.
I’m definitely a convert to the minimalist lifestyle! Just can’t get hubby on board…yet!
Thanks for sharing your story :-)
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Goodwill is a FOR PROFIT organization. I never ever donate to them.
Goodwill is an American nonprofit 501(c)(3) organization. Source.
Number 6 was the most helpful when we moved across the country a few years back. We managed to get rid of 75% of our possessions, and never bothered to replace them.
Once you commit to taking the first step and then sell/donate something, it becomes much easier for each additional item after that. We no longer see our possessions as ‘part of us’, and that makes it much easier to avoid accumulating more ‘stuff’.
I’ve moved many times over the last 20 years. Nothing gives me a better feeling about STUFF than getting rid of it. With each move it becomes less and less. I haven’t moved recently but I still practice moving twice a year. It sure has made finding, cleaning and using the items I really use stand out. Great article, thank you!