Note: This is a guest post by Britt from Tiny Ambitions.
It’s weird to think I’m already six months into my year-long shopping ban, which means I’ve spent the last six months not buying anything other than the essentials: rent, food, and toiletries.
Is that radical? Some people might say yes, but I don’t think so. It was simply a reaction to my life situation.
Owing to an uncharacteristically spendy December (thank you, unexpected car repairs), I needed a refresh. I had felt the slow creep of my compulsive shopping tendencies start to slip back into my life.
It was time for a change.
After six months on the no-buy train, I’ve learned a thing or two about myself, my consumption habits, and the process of shopping bans themselves.
Shopping Bans Shouldn’t Be Controversial
It shouldn’t be controversial for someone to say “I’m not going to buy anything I don’t truly need for x number of days”.
Perhaps it just sounds radical because we’ve been conditioned to believe we need new “stuff” all the time, but really, we know that isn’t the case. It’s just clever marketing disguised as sage wisdom.
We’ve gotten to a place where over-consumption is normalized. It’s normal to own 300+ pieces of clothing. It’s normal to live in a house that is twice the size of what we actually need. And, of course, it’s normal to go into debt to keep up with the Joneses.
When consumption is viewed in these terms, it’s easy to see why embarking on a shopping ban of any length could be considered extreme. It’s so far outside the norm for most people.
I Have More Than Enough
This comes from an absolute place of privilege, but in no time over the last six months have I felt like I was lacking an item. I never felt like I didn’t have exactly what I needed, or I couldn’t make it work with what I had.
Because I knew I had to use my stocks of consumables, like toiletries, before I could replace them, it was easier for me to appreciate what I had. There was no easy gratification option.
Since I knew I couldn’t buy anything, I actually started to notice all of the “stuff” I did have in my life.
This is especially true for the cosmetics and personal care products we use on a daily basis. I never realized how many tubes of deodorant or body lotion I had in my bathroom cupboard until I started the ban.
I haven’t had to buy a new deodorant or lotion since January, and I suspect I won’t have to for a while. (I also discovered I had a stash of seven toothbrushes—in a two person house. How many mouths do I think I can brush at once?)
Mindful Consumption
When undertaking any sort of lifestyle change, it’s initially easy to view desires from a perspective of lack. “Why don’t I have this new, trendy dress?” “Why do I have to drive such an old clunker?” “I need this new shining possession to fulfill my life.”
Based on my experience, that mindset changes once you realize how much you do actually have in your life. All you have to do is stop to notice it, instead of moving onto the next sparkling item when the opportunity presents itself.
This kind of scarcity mindset is pervasive, and one that needs to be kept in check as often as possible.
Are you buying this item because it’s on sale? In the case of my seven toothbrushes, absolutely. But here’s the thing we always forget—if it’s on sale now (when you don’t need it), it will probably be on sale again (when you do actually need it).
This is another surprising outcome of my shopping ban. Rather than helping me reduce my focus on the stuff in my life, it has actually amplified it. Everything I own now exists under a microscope, waiting for me to decide how and if I can better utilize it in my life.
I don’t think that’s a bad thing. Being hyper aware of everything I own will help me make better consumption decisions in the future.
DIY Is An Essential Skill
I don’t know if it’s because of the shopping ban or if it is entirely coincidental, but I’ve had to repair a lot of my clothes over the last six months. My long underwear, cardigan, winter socks and yoga pants all developed holes.
None of these repairs were very hard. I grew up sewing and quilting with my grandmother, used to make most of my own clothes, and even took fashion design in high school.
However, being self-sufficient at something, even if it’s just something small like mending holes in clothes, is a really good feeling. And, it’s an indispensable skill when you’re trying to reduce your consumption.
If I didn’t have these skills, I would have had to replace those items of clothing (or do without). Sewing for the win!
I Love Old Stuff
What? A minimalist who actually likes “stuff”? That can’t be right.
About one month into my shopping ban, I went into a local thrift store with my partner who was shopping for some work clothes. As soon as we walked into the store, I knew I was in trouble. Everything called out to me.
The vintage hard-sided luggage oozed of adventures once taken. Old kitchen appliances harkened back to delicious meals shared among friends.
That’s when I realized it. I love old stuff.
I love imagining the lives of the people who used to own these treasures. Each item is full of history and stories—a time I’ll never be able to experience.
This small trip to the thrift store helped me clarify exactly why it is I love certain things. And, I think that’s ok. There’s nothing wrong with loving any kind of “stuff.”
I’m a minimalist, not a soulless robot.
Certain things move me. Vintage, well-worn, beautiful curiosities are some of those things.
Now that I know this about myself, I can reshape my buying tendencies post-shopping ban to re-align with my values. As much as I can, I’ll continue to replace my possessions with second-hand items when the time comes.
Shopping Bans Are Not That Hard
When I first announced my ban, so many of the comments I received were from people who never believed they would be able to undertake such an extreme challenge in their own lives.
While I have had my fair share of temptation over the last six months (I am a reformed shopaholic, after all), once I got to the place where I knew a shopping ban was something I needed to commit to in order to get myself back on track, it has been relatively easy to stay the course.
If you don’t think you would survive a shopping ban, let me assure you, you absolutely would. Give yourself a little more credit. You can do anything you put your mind to.
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Britt blogs at Tiny Ambitions. She is a minimalist, a simple living advocate and a tiny house enthusiast.
Mansoor Hasan says
Good Post
Rhonda Barnette says
I love it Mr Joshua Becker. I always say…when u know better, you will do better. I myself took a look at what I already had. It was truly enough. When I do go into stores, I’m mindful of what I dont need. I appreciate your sharing your resources. It inspiring for others to follow..
Britt @ Tiny Ambitions says
Thanks, Rhonda! It’s amazing how recognizing how much you actually need in your life changes your perspective. That simple shift in mindset makes a world of difference.
Christine says
“We’ve gotten to a place where over-consumption is normalized.”
Thank you for calling this out. It is amazing to me how little thought is given to this reality. When I walk into
a thrift shop, I am always reminded of just how much stuff we collectively have out there, stuff with nowhere to go. I haven’t tried a formal
shopping ban, though I am ready, but I am a very discerning consumer and try to buy second hand, thus not contributing to new material and resource consumption. I, too, am drawn to old, worn things. But it’s funny, I try to keep my own belongings like new. ;)
Britt @ Tiny Ambitions says
Thanks, Christine – I’m glad that resonated with you. I struggle with the mainstream conversation that we need new outfits for every event, new cars every five years and every fancy kitchen gadget you can possibly imagine. That consumption treadmill is too much for me. From a fellow second-hand shopping, I know exactly what you mean! I love shopping second-hand, both for financial and environmental reasons. But, when I walk into second-hand stores, I can’t help but feel overwhelmed by the amount of stuff that people have decided isn’t good enough for their life anymore. Maybe if we changed the way we treat our stuff from Day 1, less of it would end up needing to be trashed, recycled or donated.
Debra says
I had the same thought when I walked into a community thrift sale being held in a church basement. The basement was filled with STUFF and two days later at the end of the sale it was still filled with STUFF and we had to pack up all that STUFF and load it into a truck in the hope of getting a few more dollars when the STUFF was now weighed. The amount of man hours that went into trying to make a few dollars off all this was crazy. We didn’t have a problem finding people to donate, but not many people were buying.
Kathie Tuttle says
I am retired, with enough but limited income. Having always been a bit frugal, this was not hard for me. That said, my beagle was diagnosed with a severe heart condition requiring expensive medication, etc. For the past 8 months I only pay bills, buy food and try to make my dog as comfortable as posdible. I too realize how much I have and how little I require. When you think of the importance of a life…stuff comes second.
Britt @ Tiny Ambitions says
I’m so sorry to hear that your beagle is sick. My family dog was diagnosed with Cushings Disease towards the end of her life and it had a big impact on my mom’s finances. You’re right though – stuff comes second. I’m so grateful that you’re able to provide the medication that your dog needs. I hope he or she starts feeling better soon!
Emily says
We do this as a family quite often, we call it a no spend/no waste month. It helps us to pay more attention to what where we have gotten loose with our budget/spending, and we start paying more attention to the amount of food/products we are wasting. It’s a great way to recalibrate!
Britt @ Tiny Ambitions says
That’s so awesome, Emily! I’ve done a couple month-long bans in the past and I always found them so useful in hitting the reset button. Even a month is long enough for you to learn where your money has been going and if it actually aligns with your values and your savings goals.
Crystal says
I’m worried I would go on a huge binge after the ban. How do you not go overboard when the ban is lifted? I would probably have a bookmarked list of everything I wanted to buy.
Cait Flanders says
If I could pipe in and say anything that might help here, I would share that my own two-year shopping ban was more like a browsing ban. That’s really what I had to do: stop looking for more, and start appreciating what I already had. I deleted all bookmarks and didn’t create more. I deleted my Pinterest account. I unfollowed brands/retailers on social media, and unsubscribed from their newsletters too. If you’re out there looking for it, you will almost always find something you want to buy. So, what happens if you stop looking? :)
Sue says
Cait, I just finished your book and it was wonderfully written, very raw and honest. Thank you for sharing your story. I highly recommend it to anyone who hasn’t yet read it!
Britt @ Tiny Ambitions says
I couldn’t agree more, Cait! Thanks for sharing your experience. My ban so far has been part actual shopping ban and part browsing ban. It makes such a big difference when you go to the effort to delete your accounts, unsubscribe and unfollow from sites and brands that are just trying to sell you stuff. I agree – if you keep looking, you’ll probably be able to convince yourself you need something. If you stop looking, that changes everything.
Judy says
Hi Cait! :)
ADRI says
Truer words have not been spoken.
I did a ban for 1 December to 28 February. Then in March I started writing down all my purchases. I spent about R7000.00 on clothes shoes and accessories in that time. Now I have pressed the “restart” button on the ban. This time around, I renamed one of my savings accounts to “Shoppin Ban” and have in two days, saved R450.00.
The idea is to save every penny I would have spent, in that account. Items I chose not to buy: Two pairs of Mary Janes (buy one get one free) and a brown handbag. I didn’t need either one.
All the while I keep reminding myself that yu did t Cait. You had one pair of jeans and repaired it until you no longer could..
So, armed with The Year of Less, to Buy or not to buy, The more of less and soulful simplicity, here I go again!!!
Jesenia SerranoLizardi says
Exactly what I’ve been doing. I’m going on 3 years now just buying the absolute necessities. But if I do see something I really love and want…I won’t feel guilty about purchasing it.
Dawn LaRoza says
I love your post !! That’s me exactly, I’m always browsing and then wanting more, when I really have too much of everything. I need a shopping/browsing ban. Thanks for the tips on deleting in social media. That’s a huge impulse for me .
Fortune Dushey says
I am so inspired! Would love to take a break from consumption. It sounds refreshing and not getting caught up with having to have a certain item because it’s on trend or cool would be liberating.
Kudos to you!
Hettie says
I know for certain I have a problem and after reading your post I WILL GIVE MYSELF A 6 MONTH BAN!!! I know it won’t be easy for sure. I actually work in a Shopping Mall and it’s soooo easy to buy something when “needed” So here goes! Till DEC ’18 need Xmas Holiday.MAYBE I SHOULD PRINT THIS AND STICK IT ON MY DESKTOP.
Britt @ Tiny Ambitions says
Ya! Congrats on committing to your six-month shopping ban. You should definitely print it out and stick it to your desktop! You’d be surprised how effective that kind of positive reinforcement is in helping you stick to your goals. I wish you all the best with your ban – I know you’re going to do awesome!
Ellaine says
I have recently bumped into a related post about this! Going on a shopping ban really has so many positive effects, at least for me. But I started out doing it unconciously since I am more inclined to saving now than spending as I recently got engaged and expecting a baby! Great share! :)
Britt @ Tiny Ambitions says
Thanks, Ellaine! Congrats on the new life changes! A shopping ban can make all the difference when you need to save for things that getting married or having a baby. I’d recommend it to anyone!
FrannyandDanny says
Best thing I ever did too. It’s stunnjng how much money you can save. In the last five years, I’ve almost paid my house off because I don’t spend on anything but essentials.
Britt @ Tiny Ambitions says
It’s crazy, isn’t it? I never knew how much I was spending on stuff until I started the shopping ban. It’s made a huge difference in my finances.