Personal Journal Entry: Friday, October 10.
I flew home yesterday afternoon after being gone for eight days. I landed seven hours earlier than planned, but twenty-four hours late.
Last weekend, I attended, presented, and enjoyed the first-ever SimpleREV conference in Minneapolis, MN. I was excited to meet Patrick Rhone. I was challenged by Brooks Duncan, impressed by David Delp, and an instant fan of Chris and Sarah Wehkamp.
All credit to Joel Zaslofsky and Daniel Hayes for dreaming, organizing, and putting on the event. I hope there are more.
Following the conference, I attended a friend’s wedding in Duluth, MN. I love weddings and it was great to see some old friends.
On Sunday afternoon, I drove by myself to a friend’s cabin in the woods. I am working on a new book. And four days of distraction-free writing seemed like the perfect environment to get started on it.
But three days into my stay, I called my wife and told her I wanted to come home. The next morning, I called the airline to arrange an earlier flight. I landed seven hours earlier than planned, but twenty-four hours late.
I learned a lot about myself this week:
I love being alone. But I most enjoy being with people I love. The week was an experiment in extremes: the energy of SimpleREV, the significance of a wedding, followed immediately by the solitude of a cabin in the woods. I loved being alone… for about two days. After that, I couldn’t wait to get home. The solitude was good. But getting home was even better.
I write best in limited quantities. While at the cabin I received a text from a friend that said, “I used to write at a cabin in Tahoe. I’d write for six hours, go for a run, and then write some more.” It became quickly apparent this would not be my experience. I write best in short spurts of 60-90 minutes followed by anything else. I need the distraction. This proves to be the best formula for me at home and alone in the wilderness.
I rely heavily on the Internet for progress. My cabin did not have Internet access. I was okay with that going in. In fact, the owner’s graciously offered to get it for me, but I declined. I wanted the environment to be distraction-free. That was probably a mistake. While it was marginally helpful to have the temptation eliminated, so many of my thoughts have been articulated online, I found myself often wanting to go find them. My inability to access information quickly became the distraction.
I am motivated by deadlines and the presence of others. On Tuesday afternoon, I drove to a local coffee shop. I needed the Internet to send out a newsletter and I wanted the change in environment. My two hours at the Chattering Squirrel Cafe turned out to be two of my most productive. Certainly this was, in part, due to a looming deadline. But additionally, I found myself uniquely pushed by the simple presence of others. I found motivation in their motivation.
My life is more than minimalism. I am passionate about what I write. I believe the message of owning less has power to change and improve the lives of all who hear it. The book is a long way from being complete and I am excited about the possibilities already. But I was reminded this week that I am more than minimalism. It guides my life but does not define it.
Experiments help us grow. In his book, Enough, Patrick Rhone writes about the value of experimentation and listening to our internal compass: Enough is a very personal metric. Like our center of gravity, each of us must find what is enough by swaying from less to more until a comfortable medium is found. I learned a lot about myself this past week. I learned things that never would have been discovered without the days alone.
I was richly blessed over the past eight days meeting new friends, reconnecting with old ones, and finding space to begin the writing process—even if I accomplished less than I had hoped.
But that’s okay with me. The most important lessons we learn are the lessons we learn about ourselves.
Carl says
Great post Joshua!
A few points really resonated.
I also write and work best in short burst (sprints) and then periods of distraction. It took me too many years to realise this and then not fight it.
The point about minimalism not defining you also hit home. As so much of my writing sits in the simplicity frame I have been guilty of forgetting it’s (simplicity) just a tool in helping me live a better life, not the end in itself.
Great stuff!
Michael Roberts says
There are so many times when I think that I would just love to get away from it all to work on whatever project is at hand, but I always forget how deadline-driven I am, too.
I like the concept of learning about oneself as being most important. We only have the power and permission to change ourselves long before we can make changes elsewhere.
Tracy @ OurSimpleHomestead says
I couldn’t agree more! I write a lot about finding ways to simplify your life. I have found that simple is defined in many ways and it all begins with your mindset. What you think you need (four days in a cabin) is often clouded by what it takes to be productive (two hours in a coffee shop.) I loved your post and have found myself in your shoes many a time.
Joel Zaslofsky says
We are all more than , Joshua. Actually, I’ve yet to find a singular word that defines the entirety of any person.
But I can say with 100% confidence that you are many wonderful things to many, many people. I started reading Becoming Minimalist five years ago and I’ve seen your tremendous growth as a writer and person. And thanks in large part to reading every word you write, I’ve experienced tremendous growth in a number of areas too. My gratitude, contentment, and “intentional” levels prove that to me every day.
You mentioned the energy that we experienced together at SimpleREV 2014 this past weekend, and … yeah. It was definitely something to behold! One of your gifts is adding your flame to smoldering embers and stoking the fire enough for everyone to be warmed. You are both a co-pilot and stoker, roles that folks like David Delp can appreciate.
Wendy says
Thank you for sharing this honest, open learning experience….it truly resonates with me and I have re-read it again already! I have been following your site and am inspired daily….but the true challenge is in the doing and there I am just beginning in baby steps. This post is an ” aha” moment for me about getting honest with myself and committing to myself to learn about me! Thank you for all you are sharing…it is life changing and extremely important work.
Hailey says
I really loved this post! Sometimes I think that people associate minimalism with living by yourself in a tiny house in the woods. I love minimalism because it has allowed me to simplify my life so I have more time to spend with my family! Being alone can be helpful at times but more often than not, I prefer to be surrounded by people. People motivate and inspire me too. Thanks for this reminder!
BrownVagabonder says
I love that – I am learning more and more about myself this past year, as I came back from a long bout of travelling, and am settling back into a 9-5 routine. The change itself spurred a lot of introspection and learning about what I like, and where I wish my life to go in the next few years. The more I learn about myself, the more surprised I am. Sometimes, the deepest parts of me are so hidden, that when they surface, it throws me for a loop.
Cheryl says
Sorry to hear your time in the cabin wasn’t the idyllic place to churn out a book like you had anticipated, but I suppose that is refreshing to realize that you write your best stuff (and are your best self) when surrounded by others. Enjoy being home, I know we’re happy to be back with loved ones, too! :-)
Scott Ringfield says
Joshua,
Your post resonated with me. Just got back from a two-week cross country solo motorcycle trip. I enjoyed the time by myself and my thoughts. After a while, that becomes old. Interacting with the rest of the world is important as well. Need to strike a balance between the two. I enjoy reading your entries.
Scott
Brian Gardner says
“But I was reminded this week that I am more than minimalism. It guides my life but does not define it.”
It’s so refreshing to hear you say this, Joshua. Earlier this week I had an exchange on Twitter with Erin Lauray and Courtney Carver about this very thing. Good stuff.