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“Contentment is natural wealth, luxury is artificial poverty.” —Socrates
There were many reasons we chose to become minimalist and simplify our lives. We were frustrated with clutter. We discovered the time that was wasted managing our possessions. We realized joy was not found in our possessions. And we determined that we value other things far more than physical belongings. This initial process of simplifying our home required energy, effort, and encouragement.
But the process of remaining minimalist and living this counter-cultural lifestyle against all odds requires something completely different. It requires knowing how to be content.
Contentment is the lifeblood of minimalism. And without it, the journey towards minimalism is short-lived. Discontent will always rear its ugly head and become a great obstacle to fully thriving in a simple and happy life.
Not only does contentment provide the opportunity for minimalism, it also reduces your stress level, improves your outlook, relaxes your body, and makes your life enjoyable. There is an unmistakable freedom that accompanies contentment: a freedom to be who you are, enjoy who you are, and live the life you were destined to live.
Yet in our consumeristic-culture where discontent is promoted and material gratification is encouraged, learning to be content can be very difficult. It is certainly a personal journey that we all must travel and nobody’s journey will look the same.
Finding Contentment
Although there is no one-size-fits-all program to fully-attain contentment, you can still learn how to be content by being intentional. Here are six tips you can apply today to find more contentment in
1. Practice gratitude. It is impossible to develop contentment without gratitude—they are inseparable. And a grateful person is one who has learned to focus on the good things in their life, not the things they lack. The simple discipline of beginning the exercise will undoubtedly shift your focus back to the many good things you already have.
2. Take control of your attitude. A person who lacks contentment in their life will often engage in “when and then thinking” – “when I get _______, then I will be happy.” Instead, take control of your attitude. Remember, your happiness is not reliant on the acquisition of any possession. Your happiness is based solely on your decision to be happy—this may be one of the most important life lessons you can ever learn.
3. Break the buying habit. For many of us, it has been ingrained into our lives that the proper way to diffuse discontent is to purchase the outward item that is seemingly causing the discontentment. Almost no energy is spent determining the true root of the discontent. Are you dissatisfied with your wardrobe? Go buy new clothes. Not content with your vehicle? Go buy a new one. We have gotten into the habit of satisfying our discontent by simply spending more money.
We must break that habit. Material possessions will never fully satisfy the desires of your heart (that’s why discontent always returns). The next time you recognize discontentment surfacing in your life, refuse to give into that bad habit. Instead, commit to better understand yourself and why the lack of that item is causing discontent. Only after you intentionally break this thinking will true contentment begin to surface.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others. Comparing your life with someone else’s will always lead to discontentment. There will always be people who “appear” to be better off than you and seemingly living the perfect life. But be advised, we always compare the worst of what we know about ourselves to the best assumptions we make about others. Their life is never as perfect as your mind makes it out to be. You are unique. You are special. Your life is different. And it’s always better that way. Prioritize learning how to stop comparing yourself to others.
5. Help others. When you begin helping others, sharing your talents, time and money, you will find yourself learning to be content. The practice will give you a finer appreciation for what you own, who you are, and what you have to offer.
6. Be content with what you have, never with what you are. Never stop learning, growing, or discovering. Take pride in your personhood and the progress that you have made, but never become so content that you cannot find room for improvement. Contentment is not the same as complacency. As soon as you stop growing, you start dying.
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FAQ About How to Be Content
What is the definition of contentment?
Contentment is finding joy in what we already have in our lives, feeling or showing satisfaction with our possessions, status, or situation. It’s being happy without trying to find fulfillment in acquiring more material possessions.
What are the benefits of contentment?
Contentment allows us to stop comparing ourselves to others and it allows us to break the cycle of wanting more. It lets us be grateful and happy for all that we have. This approach to life is scientifically proven to reduce your stress level, improve your outlook, relax your body, and make life more enjoyable.
What is the difference between contentment and complacency?
The difference can seem minor but there’s actually a world of difference. Contentment is to be happy with what you have and find satisfaction in your present circumstances. Complacency is being unsatisfied with how your life is in the moment but still being unwilling to make changes to improve your situation.
Is contentment a choice?
Absolutely, although it’s not as easy as it sounds. Learning how to be content comes from a combination of intentional mindset shifts, habit changes, and being aware of our thoughts and actions.
Samantha Studebaker Carl says
Love this Joshua!
Changing what you focus on is key! Switching your focus to cultivating Gratitude is the most effective thing for finding more contentment in life!
Here’s another Socrates quote that sums it up nicely.
“He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have”
Teresa says
Awesome quote.
ren says
People need to stop filling the voids in their lives with possessions. It’s a battle that can’t be won. I know soo many people who are constantly on the run….avoiding their unhappiness. Instead on dealing with their issues of loneliness.
Gerald Millezo says
Nice article, these helps a lot. Specially for item # 1, as I’m writing all the precious things i have in life, realization starts how much I’m blessed.
I will continue to list down all the future good things that i will have in my life.
Ken says
Contentment is one of the results of a Christ-controlled-life. If it were simply a human quality then people would be content knowing they are going to hell.
Michael says
I’m content knowing you imagine I’m going to Hell.
Debbie says
Lol. I don’t think we should be including religious beliefs in these posts.
Anna says
I agree. That would be a good sign of contentment :-)
Ulrich Ganz says
Minimalism is way to live a simple live. Everyone try to live a simple life but they unable to follow the rules of simple or minimalism life. If you want to start a minimalism life start with less and slow, if you will start this things then it became a habit and then you can live a beautiful and happy life.
Rose says
Joshua, thank you for all of your inspiring messages. I always feel very encouraged after reading your posts. They’re always very positive and uplifting. Thanks and keep it up!
Jean says
Gratitude and faith are two concepts I try to focus on daily. This post applies not just to minimalism but to all facets of living a more intentional and skillful life.
Adan Carrillo says
Number is 6 is my favorite of the 6. You hit right on, again.
Thank you for the reminder.
Paula G says
“Never become so content that you cannot find room for improvement” funny how you speak to so many people, and each of us walk away with a different treasure : ) Have a great day Mr. Becker
Gayathri Parthasarathy says
If you become so content you become lethargic. Constantly strive to be conscious of this. Gayathri pianist
Penna M says
Thank you, Joshua for your great posts! I live in Kenya, and as with a lot of other cultures, success is considered to be a function of how much one owns. Whenever I try sharing some of the ideas from your blog, I get funny stares. Coming from a culture of want, nobody really wants to be told to be content with less. It is considered unambitious and a waste of talent to live with less.
However, your blog really inspires me to continue on this journey, as I learn to be content with less. And not just because I cannot afford it, but because of the freedom of living simply.
Thanks and keep up the good work!